What makes people think that it is our obligation to forgive them?

[Alwayreckles93]

Why would people hurt someone years later expect forgiveness my 39 year old sister called me a resenful and she belives that i should forgive her and actas if nothing happened that easily. My sister has always been the golden child the favorite along with my other siblings she didn't had to struggle her college tuition was paid for now she is struggling financially and expects me to forgiveand move forward. The thing is I really never fit in with my moms side of the family not sure why I was always mistreated now as an grown adult they expect me ti forgive them so easly. I thing is a dont haveto forgive them.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Well I'll be honest with you. Some people are just self entitled and he feel like whatever they do should be forgiven. But on the other hand I don't think you should ever hold a grudge. You're giving that person too much power just move on. Don't feel anger don't feel anything just move on and live your life and if it's meant to be then at some point you'll come back together.

[Alwayreckles93]

Has anyone ever hurt you before?

[Bklynbadboy12]

Unfortunately yes I've been hurt before

[Alwayreckles93]

Dont you want them to pay back the pain they put you threw?

[Bklynbadboy12]

No cause me just leaving her alone is hurt enough she use to call me all that time and tell me how she made a mistake and how life was so much better with me. I don't want her to get hurt seems like life is beating her up enough

[Mansearching]

At least she's trying to reach out. You can move on without forgiving or forgetting. Even though you were wronged, its hard. Trust me I know the feeling. My mom and dad were just placed in my lap and was told by sibs, "Its all you and just you." I had to swallow my pride to have some sort of friendly relationship with them. So I get it. Mine is a different situation but same results.

[laraWM]

Yes I know, I agree with you, no need to forgive. It only can help sometimes

[Exterminatore]

I think God commands is to forgive if asked for forgiveness. After all, how can we ask God to forgive us if we won’t forgive others?


Forgiveness doesn’t mean necessarily trusting the other person or letting your guard down either.

[Alwayreckles93]

But what about the people that hurt you?
Don't you want them to safer the samenway they made you safer?

[Exterminatore]

Honestly no. I get no satisfaction from that.

We are called to forgive if forgiveness is asked for. We can leave the vengeance to God.

Remember that we all deserve to go to Hell and suffer eternally. However God in his mercy, not because we deserve it, sent Jesus to take our punishment, and through him forgiveness for sins is attainable.

Therefore, we cannot ask for forgiveness if we are not willing to grant it.

I don’t necessarily think we are required to grant it if it’s not asked for, I don’t think we’re necessarily required to give it if the person is not truly sorry, just sorry they got caught. Lots and lots of people apologize when they get caught, but are not truly sorry. For example, if you caught me stealing money out of your wallet and I said “I’m sorry,” but refused to give the money back to you…am I really sorry?

Blessed are the merciful for they shall obtain mercy.

There’s nothing that says you can’t forgive someone but abstain permanently from contact with someone who is known to be untrustworthy either.

However considering the great debt God has excused for us, we must in turn do that for others lest we be hypocrites.

There are several parallels Jesus gave regarding this very subject. I can copy and pass if you’d like.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Because they are narcissistic and can't fathom that anyone can persist without them in their lives.

[Alwayreckles93]

I can tell you had loving parents.

[BoopBoopBeep]

I do. I've nothing to forgive them for. How is any of this germane?

[Alwayreckles93]

I have adhd sorry. Anyway iwas angry will i was typing.

[NathanDavis]

isn't that what God expects you to do... forgive?

[Staximus]

Tell them to go piss up a flagpole

[Alwayreckles93]

😂😂😂😂😂

[invalid1]

exactly