Why do you believe people deserve forgiveness? What is something you would never forgive?

[Agape93]

[Aerissa_Jade]

If they can undo what was done, then they deserve it after they undo it... or at least are trying to.

If they don't care, then they do not deserve it or if they cannot undo it.

That said, I can forgive and just not tell them, for my own personal health. I want them to think I haven't though.

[Emiliamazing]

Great response. Considering your own personal health and letting the incident go certainly would help self healing. Too often an individual doesn't examine the hurt they inflict upon others.

[Blackcupcake]

I think forgiveness is part of a healing process… forgiveness should be considered mainly for ones own well being first, before the person who’s being forgiven, because carrying that resentment and anger will do more harm to you than it does to the other person.

[Agape93]

You're absolutely right. This is why I adore you. Well part of why

[Blackcupcake]

and I adore you!!🥰❤️

[Agape93]

🥰💜💜💜💜

[Emiliamazing]

Love this reply!

[OlderAndWiser]

No one DESERVES foregiveness. It is an act of grace. I do it because I hope that others will forgive me for my faults.

[SnowedIn]

I do think we all deserve forgiveness. But I don't think that we can/should mandate that forgiveness be given or demand that we receive forgiveness. As to why? We're all imperfect. We all make mistakes. We all have growing to do. I want forgiveness thus I better model it and give it.

I genuinely can't answer whether there is something I wouldn't forgive. I'd love to write that I'd nobly always forgive everything, but in heart I'm just an imperfect, immature human so I'd probably go scorched earth on something.

Here's the big thing that I think about forgiveness. Forgiving someone doesn't mean that you aren't angry. That you like what they did. Doesn't mean that their actions are right or that they were justified. It just means, "I forgive you and I don't hold this against you." It doesn't mean you have to hang with them, buy them coffee, or anything else. It does mean that you both acknowledge the thing and you move forward (again, not necessarily forgetting or being happy but you live life in the present and the future, not tied to the past).

[Msputiton]

Something i would never forgive. I can't answer. I don't think there is ever 100% guarantee i could never forgive anyone.

Something would be hard but i don't know especially if they are truly showing remorse and trying to make things right.

But i believe we are all a product of our environments. Who raised us, how we were taught. The people we friended. Our actions are a combination of ourselves and our teachings/experience.

Sometimes a horrible act is the turning point in someone's life to see the error.

We all deserve a chance to right our wrongs, if we truly want to be better.

In your life no matter how small you slight to anyone.

How many times have your family, friends partner forgiven you and gave you another chance.

Even if the offense was small like out of anger insulting them. It is all about forgiveness and 2nd chances.

If we stop giving people forgiveness and a chance to better themselves i feel we are all lost.

[lightbulb27]

I don't understand...

I think because God accepted us... but if don't have that sense, then...

Because the essence of the problem is separation... which is a lie, which is emotional. Forgiveness re-establishes connection. Forgiveness lets go of the past, which is holding us back from fully living in the present. Forgiveness of self is most important, we are our worst judges. But deserve it... don't know about that. What's deserve got to do with anything?

Im not sure and I don't want to put my mind in that negative place. I have been inspired by people who found the strength to forgive terrible pasts.

If we live in the fear from the past, then the past is controlling us. I think it helps to understand... ourselves and the other and put in perspective, which helps us to forgive. Forgive is a tough subject though... and maybe the greatest of human challenges for most.

[Walrus_au]

I don't.
Firstly, most people don't deserve forgiveness, they demand it as an entitlement and do nothing to earn it.
Secondly, if the offending behaviour continues, forgiveness is clearly not deserved

And thirdly (and most importantly) If I forgive person A for wronging me, that has absolutely nothing at all to do with person A and has no effect on them. It has everything to do with my emotional workoad. And generally reflects how little they matter to me, and how little I give a shit about them. Not anything to do with deserving anything.

[DaisyM23]

It really depends on the context for deserving forgiveness, remorse goes a long way I think, or if you're just the type of person to forgive easily.

I wouldn't forgive anyone hurting someone I love, rape and murder etc, I probably wouldn't forgive cheating or any kind of betrayal of trust

[BCRanger10]

I believe that if someone is sincere in remorse, repentance, whatever you want to call it, they should be forgiven. I also believe that in the interest of justice that they ought to make amends or restitution according to the kind and degree of their offense.

With that said, I honestly can't think of much of anything that I would outright refuse to forgive. I will admit that there are things about which I certainly struggle to forgive.

[FreyaRed]

"Why do you believe people deserve forgiveness?"
sometimes, if people are too limited to see consequences of their deeds or they did something bad unintentionally

"What is something you would never forgive?"
Sadism and similar pathology, I can't forgive that.

[NotTacocaT6969]

Some things simply cannot be forgiven such as actions carried out with full awareness that those actions will have negative consequences.


Example:


If you did not know the paint on a wall was wet and touched it, you would deserve to be forgiven for that honest mistake.


If you saw someone drop their wallet and decided to take all of their money instead of give it back, you would not deserve to be forgiven for that deliberate misdeed.

[NavyblueTacos]

forgiveness is a funny thing. Some things can't and shouldn't be forgiven, og no one deserves it 'automatically'. I rarely need to forgive anyone, because it would mean that someone does something to me, that they regret, and I mostly keep to myself, so thats rarely the case, but I dont see any reason to hold grudges against people who are remorseful.
*Something that never should be forgiven, is my English grammar, I just cannot seem to get it right lol

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

I'll be honest, I think some people deserve forgiveness simply because it makes me live better. I don't have them living rent-free into my head, and I come out as the one that looks better in forgiving people that hurt me.

What I could not forgive, is someone hurting my daughter, or my wife. That'd pretty be a one way ticket for a slow and painful death, and trust me that I know the right people to make that happen.

[crossdressingrihno]

Because it’s functional.
By forgiving others and and not dealing with them you can move on to things that are useful or entertaining.


Think of this way.
Would you rather be doing your favorite hobby or putting up with some guy you don’t like.

[Rockstarrrrr]

Honestly? No... we only live once... Doing a very bad thing like ruining someone's life in some way... Forgiveness only benefits the abuser.. The victim gets nothing out of it... We only forgive because we're weak and we want to move on with the help of the illusion that it becomes fair enough when we forgive... If we're strong enough... We will NEVER forgive...

[Voldra]

I'm compelled as a Christian to emulate the love Jesus displayed on earth/forgive all. On a more personal level I have the wisdom to understand that evil is predicated on devouring, even itself when its all thats left, I'm looking to transcend that fate.

[nawtee_me]

All things are forgivable to me, it is a choice I make. Forgiveness is not for the other person it is for my sanity. If I forgive them then they do not have a playground in my head to play in.
Holding resentments is like drinking poison and hoping the other person will get sick from it. Most of the time they don’t even know you have a resentment towards them.

[TallAnon]

There's limits to everything, things such as rape, murder or permanent mutilation of a family member is not something I would forgive.

If someone is late to a meeting by 10 minutes, I think we can forgive that, haha. There is no use creating hatred because of it, it would just be detrimental to everyone involved.

[TheVigilantOne]

The abuse I suffered at the hands of my father for over 30 years and my ex for over a year I’d never forgive them ever, forgiving them would mean that what they did doesn’t matter and it’s ok and it’s not.

[Jessica405]

Being unfaithful is never forgivable. Neither is physical or mental abuse.

[letuswaltzforthedead]

Some people do, it depends on the transgressions made. It depends on the context too because forgiveness can be given even if it's not deserved.

[EmpressBree]

I believe that we should forgive everyone for everything and not for them but for ourselves, but I don't think we ever need to forget we need to learn lessons from the actions were forgiving, and just because we forgive them does not mean that we need to allow them back in our life or allow them as close to us as they were before, just strictly my opinion

[DryGermanGuy]

„Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it’s such a powerful weapon.“
- Nelson Mandela, Invictus

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I wouldn't forgive someone who would beat on me in a relationship, Now if they were sarcastic I would think they deserve forgiveness

[Emiliamazing]

Forgiveness doesn't have to come from me. If somebody causes you irreparable harm, you can shut them out of your life. You can let them go.

[Emiliamazing]

Cheating/adultery is something I would never forgive. Murder of one of my family members or close friends would be a very difficult act to forgive as well.

[Emiliamazing]

Forgiving yourself, and realizing that you did somebody harm, I think that should be the ultimate goal.

[YourFavoriteFriend]

I don't think that they deserve forgiveness to begin with. Wait, I shouldn't have answered the question then?

[PizzaPieMamaBear]

They don’t you’re giving them grace. Grace is getting what you don’t deserve

[purplepoppy]

Forgiveness is the path to the future. Without it we're tied to the wrongs of the past.

[RolandCuthbert]

Forgiveness is never about the people you are forgiving.

[Alex8736]

you can always forgive but the one thing you CAN'T do is forget because history always repeats itself so screw me once shame on you screw me twice shame on me

[Dana223]

I completely agree. Forgive yes, forget no. Those are not the same.

[Alex8736]

To the habitual toxic people they feel that just because you forgave them gives them the mindset that people are naive but in reality on to them

[Sevenpointfive]

you cannot forgive murder, rape, molestation

[Sixgunsound]

Forgiveness and amnesia are two separate things.

[rienna888]

Umm something I’d never forgive is someone killing one of my loved ones, my boyfriend, I might hunt them down and stab them to death.

[suzzieQ]

Sexual assault or abuse at the hand of an adult. Period.

[collie22]

Sincerely a change of heart can be forgiven but you can't fake God.

[jongreat46]

no one deserves forgiveness especially that asshole that tried to kill innocent gay people.

[legalboxers]

I dont. I can't and I won't, they use the excuse "we were joking"..

[In_Trance]

Im not sure people deserve it. Depends on the context

[Tina19]

I am not good at it i never forgive

[pewter_moon]

Animal abuse.

[Ms_Facesitter]

No. I think you're lucky if you receive it.

[Batsy01010101]

all the hurt and pain she's caused me

[Kumi10]

Rape! No question.