Girlfriend didn't respond to message for 12+ hrs. Her snapscore went up and she left comments on her friends social media posts. Irdk what to do/say?

[Anonymous]

She said she was busy shopping and studying for a exam. I asked her friends, they said they didn't have any recent exams.

[kylee2437]

So you went this out of your way to see if she was cheating, but you don’t see that in itself as an issue?

[Asker]

Lol never said anything about cheating, was wondering why she might be ignoring? And if she's done w me, y can't she say that? And why lie?

[kylee2437]

My point stands. You are doing too much to try and keep tabs and don’t see that in itself as an issue.

[Asker]

Lol keeping tabs? Instagram and tiktok posts pop up on my feed, I open the comments on a mutual friends video/posts, and she left a comments in there, that's keeping tabs?

She lied about that, and I get curious and ask her friends, who confirm another lie.

That's not a problem though?

[kylee2437]

And went out of your way to ask her friends.. so yes you are keeping tabs.

[Asker]

And I should ignore that she lied? You're very useful.
Her friends were a bit shocked too, by the way and never accused me of keeping tabs.

[kylee2437]

Where am I saying you should ignore that she lied? I am insinuating that your relationship is most likely over and you are doing too much to realize that.

[HollyK21]

I don’t think that’s very fair, Kylee. It would be one thing if it were like 3, maybe 5 hours and he’s clocking her all the time, but 12+? I’d be a bit worried and wonder where my partner is too. But not that they’re cheating, OP didn’t even specify that. Then snap score isn’t something one has to go out of their way to find either, it’s right there if you click the name. Not trying to come for you at all, just sharing a thoughts and you don’t have to agree🩵

[kylee2437]

@hollyk21 my point was, that his relationship is most likely over and the fact that he needs to search this much to figure out everything goes to show that he should break up with her. He said he doesn’t know what to do but the answer is clearly in front of him of what he should do

[Asker]

@HollyK21 Thanks, Holly. I agree with kylee that things are most likely over, and if she doesn't end things, I will.

But she's reaching with the accusations of keeping tabs.

[kylee2437]

@asker this is a form of keeping tabs lol the solution is right in front of you.

[HollyK21]

Yeah, I can definitely agree that part Kylee, if she’s going to those lengths then the relationship is probably over. @OP sorry about that😣

[Asker]

Opening my social media to scroll mindlessly is keeping tabs? You can not be serious.

[Asker]

@HollyK21 Have accepted that it's most likely over
Thank you

[kylee2437]

You didn’t just scroll through social media , I don't know why you are only specifying that now, when you pointed out other details lol yes the fact that it’s taking lengths to reach out to her at this point is problematic

[Asker]

Let me clarify.

1. 8 hours passed since i sent message
2. Open tiktok, mutual friends video appears in fyp. Open comments, she commented 13 minutes ago.
3. Open snapchat to snap friend about smthg, curious so I check her snapscore, increased.
4. She responds 14 hrs later, apologizes. Gives above listed excuses, sends hearts.
5. Next day, ask her friends. They confirm lie, and are shocked as well.

This isn't going anywhere, kylee. I'm going to stop responding now. I was mostly just shocked at your accusation of keeping tabs.

What am I supposed to do, not ask any questions when the lie pops up in front of my face with me asking?

[kylee2437]

Asker, you are taking what I am saying way too personally. Use what you had to go out of your way for as a tool to figure out what is best for this situation.

[Shamalien]

@kylee2437 gaslighting bitch

[kylee2437]

@Shamalien it’s gaslighting to tell someone to use critical thinking skills. “Oh she lied to me, but I should give her lengths to explain herself” she lied, end it. Christ y’all go out of your way to keep shitty relationships going

[Avicenna]

Is that unusual behavior for her?

[Asker]

Her friends were shocked, and she did lie. Don't know what to do honestly, not like her at all.
My only question is, if she's tired of me, y not say that. I'd accept it no problem. I'd rather that than be lied to.

[Avicenna]

You need to talk to her

[Asker]

When I meet her next, what do I say? That I know you were lying, and if you want to end it, just say that, and I'll be out of your hair?

[Avicenna]

Don’t be accusatory. You want to get the truth so you can make an informed decision.

[anon1903]

You should call her, dumbass

[In_Trance]

Did you call her or go and see her?

[Asker]

She responded eventually. I'm going to see her over the weekend, she asked to hang out. Will likely end things then.

[boobliker]

it can take me a day or two to reply