How do you know if someone is a fake friend?

Question

What comments do they make?

Biancam13 · Accepted Answer

If it's a one-sided friendship (they expect things from you that they wouldn't do themselves, they have double standards, etc.) If they put you down in any way. Some friends tease each other, but if they take it too far they are careful not to do it again. They don't like hurting your feelings and don't do it purposefully. This also goes for making demeaning "jokes" about you. They aren't jokes, they are being passive-aggressive about how they truly feel about you.  When you tell them something they are doing hurts you, they don't validate your feelings and make an effort to change the behaviour. They gaslight you and you can tell they don't respect your perspective on things.  If they talk behind your back. They probably resent you. If they don't make an effort to sort out conflicts between you. They just don't care enough. And/or just blame you and take none of the responsibility themselves.  If they compete with you in an unhealthy way or are jealous. This goes for excessive copying too.  If they make a pass at your partner or people you're interested in/exes of yours. They are competing or jealous of you. When you hang out with them, something feels off or awkward for no reason. It's usually because they don't like you all that much. Especially if they're okay in a group but when it's just the two of you it's awkward. Ultimately though, you can usually feel it in your spirit if someone is not a real friend. If you have to even ask the question "Are they my friend [anymore]?" There's a reason for that-- your intuition is picking up on something. With my true-blue friends, I've never had to question our friendship or had doubts because it was obvious that they genuinely cared for me and me for them.

Rei13 · Accepted Answer

It isn’t always even just comments they make necessarily. It could be that you are constantly doing things for them but they never do anything for you so it isn’t a fair give/take relationship. For example I had a friend that was only my friend when they needed something.

As far as comments go it could be the way they don’t care about your feelings, only concern for themselves etc or on the flip side are too interested in what you think/feel etc without giving anything of themselves.

razelove · Accepted Answer

They give you shitty advice they themselves would never follow.

They talk badly about you behind your back.

You need to be available when they need you, they're never available when you need them.

Pretty much any one of those, I'm sure there are others, but mostly just pay attention to the actions of others, not their words, words are cheap and useless, except as they relate to what someone does.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Accepted Answer

Watch their mouth.

Fake people often uses flattery to make people feel at ease and make themselves appear good and friendly.

Also, these type of people tend to be disrespectful and hurtful with their mouth towards you but disguise it as I was only "joking"

Pinay_ako · Answer

They will smile in your face but roll their eyes as soon as you turn away …  They will downplay your success They will compete with you  They celebrate your failures They are jealous of your life They copy you because they can’t stand you but they want to be like you  They lie to you so you will feel sorry for them but will stab you in the back whenever they can  They will even seduce your man to hurt you  When you confront them, they play victim  Stay away from snakes!

Anonymous · Answer

How I could tell my friend was a fake friend was when we fought. I would apologize and be the bigger person even if I was wrong just looking to end the beef and validate her feelings. However she didn't do that for me. She wouldn't apologize and she just ignored me and my feelings which hurt a lot. It was like she wanted me to own up yet she wouldn't own up either like she's perfect. Then she would give me the silent treatment expecting me to pull basically all the weight of the friendship and keep it going. I was just done.

sheenagwapa · Answer

my vision 😊 thank yoy heaven Lord Jesus and Mama Mary... let's see how these demons will make their move. thou shall pay for joininh the tram of the demon. tbh i am just tired of this shit! i just want this piece of shit of a man Adam to just get the fuck out of mu lige

The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

They do not oppose anything you decide or do.

They are totally indifferent to you.

They accept your call but seem to be eager to conclude the call as soon as possible always.

Keep unnecessary things from you.

MystiKaL · Answer

Intuition will always tell you. Look into their eyes and you will see if they seem sincere or not. Fake friends also have fake smiles. Plus, they only want you when they need something.

Again, go with your gut instinct.

YesterdaysChild · Answer

People who talk behind your back. They are not friends. They are gossips.

Account · Answer

Look. I could list a number of reasons but they all lead to one for me. If my intuition tells me something is wrong with them, odds are it usually is and it is proved afterwards.

MementoMori777 · Answer

fake friends dont care about you, they only pretend to do so, you'll know by their actions and if they are shady or dont match their words then its possible they might be fake

ShesRad80 · Answer

not so much what they say is how they treat you and when you need them are they actually there

Fuentes · Answer

Ur always second and u don't mean anything to them and they will fuck u over or have fucked u over in a heart beat, never take ur side. And make jealous comments about you.

DizzyDesii · Answer

When they make snide remarks to disregard everything you’re happy about

bernhardh · Answer

Ooh, seems to be plenty of those. If the room mood changes to quiet or fake-loud when you enter, someone is gaslighting you. Usually a group of people with at least one ringleader. It isca crime to gaslight, but it can get difficult to prove it.

Jazzy54 · Answer

They constantly want something from you. (e. g. money). Also, you find out that they talk trash about you behind your back.

WanderingLoveWizard · Answer

"I'm always here for you" No the fuck they aren't

LostandFound__x · Answer

If they make you feel bad about anything or in any way.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

When they do things that actual friends don't do. If they do what bullies would do.

_no_one_ · Answer

It all comes down to how much they really care than pretend they actually do.

Reorx · Answer

Pay more attention to their actions. Ask yourself who benefits? A real friend cares about his friends & chooses to sacrifice for them.

Caribbeangthings · Answer

Talk to you in a condescending manner, talks about their other friends business to you (most likely they're doing the same to you), makes "jokes" about your body etc.

Anonymous · Answer

They act flaky, and make excuses to things with you. They are also very shallow.

Nerdvana · Answer

Ask to borrow money or help you move.

Anonymous · Answer

They manipulate your emotions

Anonymous · Answer

They clap their hands when you hit rock bottom

jujus · Answer

Body language

In_Trance · Answer

Pay attention

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