Do your parents truly love you if they don't care if they hurt you?

[Anonymous]

my parents knowingly hurt me by bullying me. they know it but they don't care and continue to do it anyways. I threaten to abandon them permanently and they don't care. Meanwhile they still provide a roof and food on the table for me. I honestly don't think they love me but they're just trying to keep me living with them so they can have a punching bag to hit whenever they are frustrated and angry with life.

Because i know that if I had a child, I would never intentionally hurt them if I had loved them. I would never want my child to abandon me. It would deeply disturb me and I would try to do everything in my power to prevent that from happening.

[jennifer_bloom]

There are two ways to love somebody, you can love somebody the human way, or you can love them the animal way and a lot of people love others the animal way because they aren't high enough to love them the human way. For example, verbally abusing your child to get them to work harder or punishing them for not being racist or stingy, that is the animal way to love your child. Encouraging them to get good grades with words and not punishing them for bad ones, and teaching them to volunteer at homeless shelters and food banks instead of bringing the homeless people into their homes, that is the human way to love your children.

[Nikki1989]

No, they obviously don't care at that point.

[Anonymous]

You may feel hurt but you are talking about them from the stand point of a child and a dependent.

Their actions and approach overall may be right or wrong.

They are probably like most humans capable of holding competing aspirations, goals, and biases at the same time. So while they love you, are proud of you, are validated by you, maybe they are also frustrated by you and would like to rent out your room. Why are you still there :-)

Of course, if you eventually do have a child. You'll be able to show them all how easy it is.

[Anonymous]

No, not if they are bullying you. You should abandon them.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks.