Anyone else at the age of 34 not want kids?

[red324]

I've never even found a decent girl, let alone one to have kids with. Honestly it's not anything I've been interested in anyways, both my parents are deceased, so I wouldn't have much assistance with raising them. Opinions?

[menina]

I'm not 34 yet but I don't have kids either. It's something I'm still undecided. If I ever decide to become a mother, my children will probably be adopted.
I know that some people feel forced to have kids, but you shouldn't have them if you don't want to. Raising a child is an huge responsibility and a "full time job". It's not a joke. Not to mention that they need love, attention and care. Not everyone can give that to them.
In the end, it's your decision and you're free to do whatever you want. There's absolutely nothing wrong with not wanting to be a father.

[jeffend888]

You... really don't have a whole lot of time to decide.

[red324]

@jeffend888 uh a guy can have kids at 80

[menina]

@jeffend888 I know that. That's why I said that they will probably be adopted.

[Anemone978]

I understand not actually being able to find a mate that is a good candidate to have kids with, but if you do fall in love I think it may happen organically because I had kids and I do all the child rearing and his family was always there if i needed help (though I never really asked) so if you have a good mate with a good family you will be fine. But also if you truly don't want kids that is fine too, life is honestly easier without a partner and kids..

[red324]

I have a dog and that's basically a kid.

[red324]

These women never stay with me so I'm not doing the whole child support thing, every other weekend bs

[red324]

Now if she has a kid of her own, then I'm okay with that.

[KrakenAttackin]

@red324. Bro, never play another man's saved game.

[red324]

@KrakenAttackin no offense, but at 34 most women have a kid already.

[KrakenAttackin]

@red324. Don't be a cuck. Single mothers are a poison, a cancer, slowly killing our society. She doesn't want you for you, she wants you for your resources and help raising her kids.

[Anemone978]

@KrakenAttackin He isn't a cuck.. because the kids are not his he can leave any time.. and like he said most people that are 34 have kids by now..

[Avicenna]

My first kid wasn't until I was 37, and it was unplanned. I didn't say I didn't want kids, but I thought I never would. Now I have four kids.

[Drumlin2001]

Get a vasectomy then. You won't need to worry bout it. No more condoms will be better sex for you

[Anemone978]

You can still have kids with a Vasectomy, that is how my uncle was born. My grandpa didn't believe it and got a DNA test and it was his kid LOL Not likely but can still happen...

[red324]

@Anemone978 it probably wasn't done right then

[Drumlin2001]

Thats why you're supposed to have the follow up tests on sperm count, as it can fail. I need to wait another 5 weeks before returning my sample to see if mine worked

[Apple1996]

It's up to you if kids are important but in my opinion I'd feel really incomplete in life not having my kids

[jeffend888]

Be prepared for a lifetime of loneliness, extreme judgement from friends and family members and complete purposelessness.

[red324]

Pfft my best friend is married and is with a girl with 4 kids. He's miserable.

[red324]

We don't even hang out anymore because she doesn't let him.

[Apple1996]

Some men use their wife and kids as a excuse when they really just actually don't want to hang out with that person anymore.
My husband has done this before. I tell him to go out and he's like nah I told them my wife wouldn't let me. I think it's that men just get content having their family and don't really need friends anymore

[KrakenAttackin]

@red324. Are the kids his biological kids?

[jeffend888]

@Apple1996 Correct. Friends disappear by the time you hit your early 30s because everyone creates nuclear families. If you don’t create a nuclear family, you will want to hang yourself from a ceiling fan by the time you hit 40.

[red324]

@KrakenAttackin only one of them. The father isn't in the picture though so that simplifies things I guess

[red324]

@Apple1996 I don't think so. He has to squeeze a hangout session in after work if we do hangout. She blows up his phone the whole time when we do hang out

[jeffend888]

No one with kids is miserable. They might say they are, but they’re not. They love their kids more than anything in the world and they would never go back to being single. Once a man reaches a certain age and he’s single, it’s utterly depressing.

[red324]

He doesn't mind the kids it's the wife that makes him miserable

[KrakenAttackin]

@red324. Dealing with another man's three kids is nuts. Also, the wife likely drove the first guy away.

[red324]

@KrakenAttackin yeah only he can decide what to do.

[Apple1996]

Women blow up their mans phone all day regardless of what he's doing. Maybe he's miserable with the wife but loves the kids so that's enough for him to be happy

[Apple1996]

@KrakenAttackin I don't see a issue with having non bio kids. Some guys want that

[red324]

@Apple1996 That drives me nuts. Then you go on a date and they aren't interested anymore after 2 weeks of non stop texting.

[KrakenAttackin]

@Apple1996 only an idiot of a man "wants this". I'm sorry but I have zero respect for men like this.

[Apple1996]

@KrakenAttackin why tho? My dad is a step dad to my brother's and is closer with them then his own biological kids

[KrakenAttackin]

@Apple1996 No, just no. Men need to stop raising other men's kids. Women can just bounce from man to man without consequences, while men pay the bills. If her kids are adults that's one thing. But if she has young kids she needs to make it work with baby daddy.

[Apple1996]

@KrakenAttackin nah some baby daddies are shit. Not worth it to stay just for the kids. And most of those women are having consequences. They the ones being the default parent while the other gets to have a normal life and simply just have to pay money to get out of being a parent

[KrakenAttackin]

@Apple1996 SO WHY DID THESE WOMEN HAVE UNPROTECTED SEX WITH THEM.

These women make bad decisions and only a simp steps in to pay for it.

[Apple1996]

@KrakenAttackin because mem put on a act and will be good in the beginning just to get sex or a relationship from women then stop trying once shit gets serious. It's purely on the men for faking who they are. Not on the women

[jeffend888]

@KrakenAttackin I agree. Any guy who raises another guy's kids is a grade A moron.

[Apple1996]

Why are they a moron. They are doing a good thing by being a father figure to kids that don't have one. It's better then letting the kids grow up without it and sending them into world all fucked up

[red324]

@Apple1996 he's just a typical gag guy with a bad attitude

[KrakenAttackin]

@red324. My ex was like that. It enraged her that she wasn't controlling every second of everything around her. Fuck.

[Apple1996]

@KrakenAttackin well maybe you shouldn't have picked such a bad woman to marry. Should have seen that she was controlling before getting serious lol

[KrakenAttackin]

@Apple1996 True enough, frankly I didn't have enough experience with women.

[Apple1996]

@KrakenAttackin awhh no I was really just messing with you. Obviously you wouldn't know if she was bad or not before marrying especially if you didn't know much about women

[red324]

Because they all have controlling wives that don't let them go anywhere?

[red324]

@KrakenAttackin My brothers girlfriend was like that on her first marriage. She said the dude divorced her after he had enough of her not letting him leave the house ever. She learned her lesson and lets my brother do as he pleases which is basically sit at the house all day anyways lol

[KrakenAttackin]

The fact she worked to change is nothing short of amazing.

[red324]

@KrakenAttackin I told her about my friends wife keeping him on a tight leash and she told me straight up "oh no that's not how you keep a man" that's how my first marriage ended.

[KrakenAttackin]

@Apple1996 So women are just children in women's bodies, incapable of determining who's seed to carry? Give the number of single mothers it seems women have essentially shitty judgement.

[Jkgordon]

Why do you need your parents? I see why you are alone

[red324]

Are you serious? How many times do you drop your kids off at grandma and grandpas when you want to go out somewhere?