Dad refuses to meet my baby daddy's family?

[Teedragonborn]

I dont really know what answer im looking for, I guess advice? Im pregnant with my first child and my dad is refusing to meet my boyfriend's family. My boyfriend did call him when he was mad at me during a argument we had and according to my dad they exchanged words. I dont know if what type, its not okay but my dad just said "he was a total jerk".
My dad is one of the biggest jerks alive so it almost takes one to know one lol. Its annoying for me because his stepmom and father are doing everything to help with the baby while my dad isn't doing anything.. they are buying everything we need for the baby and she's trying to have a combined baby shower, which is what I want too but now he wants to have his own baby shower and wants nothing to do with any of them... what do i do?

[petitedollbabee]

Decide if your dad is actually someone valuable to have in your child’s life. If he’s not willing to even meet your partners family, and he’s not helping with any baby items, and he’s disregarding what YOU want and trying to do things his own way, then what does he actually bring to the table? My dad is similar, so I understand. It hurts when it’s your own dad doing this, but you’ve got to put your own feelings before his. It’s your child, not his. Do what’s best for you, your partner and your child/children in the long term. Don’t try to please your dad in the short term, you’ll only make yourself miserable and create a divide between him and your partners family, who are helping you way more than your own father is.

[slatyb]

You live with it. You can't make him associate with them. Arrange your life to suit yourself. If you want to spend time with the other grandparents, do it. He can go or not.