I have been with this man for a year and I asked 2 months ago to meet his parents and he refused. He also said they have have pushing to meet me too. He said they “will interfere, they will ruin everything, I don’t have a good relationship with them.” But still he has dinners with them. He said it’s a boundary and I have to except it. He also took his ex to meet them and they were together a shorter amount of time. I said she was lucky and he said “no I’m protecting you from them.” Should this be a dealbreaker for me, I’ve struggled with it?
That seems a bit odd to me. Is there some reason for him to believe that his parents wouldn't accept you? A difference in ethnicity or religion? Have you meet any of his friends? What is your goal for this relationship? Would you be happy if it continued as is?
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If you are considering marriage I believe you need to understand the family dynamic into which you are entering. He owes you a detailed explanation at a minimum.
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Just what the hell is this loser hiding?
For heaven's sake wake up and smell the coffee girl... You're simply wasting your time... Dealbreaker, Red Flag and everything else thrown in.
Maybe he does have a strained relationship with his parents and something might have happened with his parents and his ex that caused a strained in their relationship back then. But at the same time, if I were in your position, I’d want to meet his parents at least once still. Maybe try to find a compromise with him, you can meet via video chat, or just meat once for a quick lunch (make sure you have an escape plan so you can leave quickly), etc.
Yeah. Guys are only like that when they have serious problems.
I wouldn't want to meet anyone's parents either. Parents always meddle, they always try to influence the relationship.
It would be difficult for a woman to meet my parents, we'd have to go to the cemetary.
Just ask him to get married. you'll get all the answers
You get to decide. Given the situation it feels like you should try to respect his decision and it can be red flag too.
Sounds like it.
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