My father have controlling behaviour and perfectionist. This harms me. How can I protect myself?

[Anonymous]

I dont like his behaviours and conversation. He has low self esteem.

[Oliverlogan263]

Man that really sucks dealing with a dad like that. Controlling and perfectionist parents can do a number on your mental health. Here are some things that may help:

- Set clear boundaries. Calmly tell him his behavior is hurting you and needs to change. Don't back down on enforcing limits.

- Spend less time around him if possible. Do activities outside the house more to get space.

- Talk to other trusted adults like a teacher, coach, or family member you're close with. Get an outside perspective and help dealing with it.

- Remember his issues probably come from his own insecurities, not you. Don't internalize the criticism. You're perfect just as you are.

- Take care of your mental health. Do relaxing things you enjoy to stay positive. Talk to friends when he brings you down.

- You won't be able to change him, but stand up for yourself respectfully when he crosses lines. Don't let him control your life.

- In a few years you'll have more independence and choices. Focus on your goals and get ready for that freedom, man.

Stay strong - you've got this. His issues aren't a reflection of you at all. Just look after yourself and your happiness, aight? It'll get better.

[Anonymous]

Why does a grown man have these issues with a parent?

[Asker]

I have had always issues with my parent unfortunately