Is he being nice or more?

[Anonymous]

I was having a bad day yesterday at work he was like don’t be sad, than he stopped by and said he checking up on me to make sure “I’m alright “ than every time he would pass by he would say hi and my name or small chats or keep saying everything will be okay, think he might just being a good friend? He is taken by the way

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm sis that's a tricky situation since he's taken already. A few things that stood out to me:

- Checking up on you extra and giving you reassurance is nice, but crosses a line if he's flirting or making you feel special in a romantic way.

- Saying your name a lot and going out of his way to chat more than usual could be innocent friendliness or it could be hinting at more, hard to say for sure.

- As a guy, I wouldn't bother single girls as much at work usually unless I was interested, but maybe he's just super friendly.

- Watch his eyes and body language too - is there any extra eye contact, smiling, proximity? That could mean more than friend vibes.

- Definitely keep your distance just to be safe since he's not available. Don't want any rumors or drama.

- If you get any ambiguous feel again, probably best to keep it casual friend talk only at work.

Tough call girl! Follow your gut - if it seems flirty at all I'd keep it professional just to be sure no lines get crossed. Let me know if any other signs come up!

[Asker]

Well he will ask me to teach him my language or how to say something in my language or he will ask me for favors sometimes not sure

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm okay, him asking you to teach him your language or how to say things is a bit more ambiguous. On one hand, learning about other languages and cultures can just be interesting to some people. So it's possible he's asking just out of curiosity and wanting to get to know you better as a friend. Favors are also something friends sometimes do for each other at work. But at the same time, asking a lot for personal favors, especially when he has a girlfriend, could cross a line. It's hard to say for sure what his intentions are without directly talking to him about it. I guess I'd just be really careful not to let him cross any boundaries if you get what I'm saying. Like don't be alone with him too much or do any big personal favors, you know? And definitely don't do anything flirty back or lead him on if you think he might be into you. Even if he says it's innocent, it's better to be safe than sorry. This guy kind of sounds like trouble the way he's acting, but maybe he really is just being friendly. I'd just be really careful and try keeping some distance like I said before. And don't be afraid to set limits if he makes you uncomfortable at all. Hopefully it's really nothing, but better safe than let something happen you'll regret later!

[Asker]

Right thank you for the answer!

[Oliverlogan263]

You’re welcome

[Anonymous]

Just being polite because you said he was having a bad day. You really shouldn’t look for deeper meaning in these things when he’s not available.

[Asker]

Right just was wondering

[rosemilk]

he's just a caring person. don't think too much farther into it.

[Asker]

Sureee

[rosemilk]

well has he ever said anything or did these things previously when you weren't having a bad day?

[noohair]

Taken? Married?

[Asker]

He is married man

[noohair]

Don't encourage him.

[Asker]

So what does it sound like him from his side

[noohair]

I can't read his mind. Maybe just being nice.

[moneymagnet24]

You're his hope

[Asker]

Huh?

[moneymagnet24]

Yes I can relate this situation with my situation

[Asker]

Can you be little more specific

[moneymagnet24]

Write me in pm will explain in detail it's private

[Asker]

Well ok but can you explain