Is my sisters friend a pedophile?

[Anonymous]

This was back in 2009. I think my friend, and I were about 15, and my sister, and her friend were like 18. I've never even thought about this until last night. I lived with my mom, and back then we had a lot of party's there. There were always people coming and going that I didn't know. One day my sisters friend was over. She was very drunk. My friend was there too. He came up to me, and was like "dude, we were dancing, and she was like grinding up against me". He seemed really proud, and I was just like "lucky", but now I think of it as very weird that she would grind up against a 15 year old boy. She's in her 30s now, and I haven't really associated with her since like 2012. She has a husband, and a couple kids now. I guess im just kind of worried she's doing inappropriate things like that with her kids, or with other kids. What do you think?

[Oliverlogan263]

Woah dude, that does sound pretty sketchy. An 18-year-old grinding on a 15-year-old is definitely iffy behavior.

A couple things to consider though - she was drunk, so impaired judgment could explain it to an extent. And this was over 10 years ago when she was still pretty young herself.

Of course it's good to be aware and cautious around anyone who's shown questionable conduct before. But I wouldn't necessarily assume from one strange incident so long ago that she's presently a danger, ya know? People can change a lot in their 20s.

Unless you've got any other recent concerns about how she interacts with kids nowadays, I probably wouldn't stress too much. But definitely listen to your gut if something ever feels off again.

Maybe have a casual chat with your sis too just to air things out, see if she's noticed anything odd or has any other stories. Reassurance is always cool.

But for now man, try not to let it weigh on you too heavy. People make mistakes - what matters most is learning from 'em. Just stay sharp and trust your instincts going forward.

[gorydetails]

This thing allegedly happened 13 years ago, and based on the hearsay of a 15 year old boy. And at the time she was only 3 years older than him and barely an adult. Time to move on about it.

[Cutegirl06]

I get she was drunk and only 3 years older than your friend, but if it was reversed and your friend was a girl and the guy was 18 everyone would be outraged. I don't think she's a pedophile it's just that a girl can get away with doing something like this with a boy and everyone thinks it's no big deal. It's actually quite sad.

[Anonymous]

personally, nah, she was drunk. yes it's weird, but still i don't see any red flags with this.

of course this 15 year old boy was proud of having a drunk 18 year old female grind on him...

[AngryCarl]

The court considers there is insufficient evidence to convict. In layman's language, no, your friend is probably not a pedophile.

[Anonymous]

hehe. look at all the double standard people excusing her behavior because she was drunk. Guys don't get that same excuse if they do something like this when they are drunk.

[dustybiker2]

It wasn't appropriate.

[laly520]

yes he is