Is my mom a pedophile?

[Anonymous]

Is my mom a pedophile? or at least a master manipulator?-I grew up on a commune/cult created by ex hippies everyone was second & third generation there was this troubled kid who's dad didn't want him around anymore ( his dad was a piece of shit)& he didn't have a mom, so the leader of the cult sent him to live with various family's until finally he endedup with mine, my dad instantly took him under his wing.. during this point my mom was depressed & very overweight.. she was put in charge of tutoring him & so it began... the late night phonecalls, her sneaking around to see & talk to him, sending me away so she could tutor him for hours alone (he was 13 at this point) my dad started getting suspicious & put a stop to them hanging out & then one day I woke up & mom had left & signed away custody of me to the cult leader,2 months later the kid ran away magically ended up living with my mom. his dad after hearing about the whole situation disowned him & gave custody to my mom, i left the cult 3 years later & moved to the same state as my mom but had to live with estranged family till my dad joined me, now for some reason my mom wouldn't allow me near this kid ( but he'd sneak & call me because well its hard adjusting to a whole new reality)& she was obsessed with him, called him her best friend, wouldn't allow him to date, never ever took care of me but got him anything he wanted example of creep factor - she would buy bottles of jack & they'd go off into the woods alone to drink, they lived in a 1bedroom apartment, she was always going on about how he looked like Leo DiCaprio, one day when I was 19 I finally found proof she had written him a letter calling him her husband & using his last name as her own when I asked her about it she admitted they were together but claimed they didn't hookup till he was legal & suddenly she decided he could meet me? when me & him started hanging out he would bully & beat the fuck out of me

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She didn't care about that at all & was madly in love with him while making me call him my brother at the same time... till one day he dumped her for someone young girl.. then the spin began she says- I know people think I was wrong but he's a manipulator even as a kid he was way ahead of me mentally I got sucked in he's a piece of shit etc.. etc.. & my dad hated this kid? Saying he brokeup our family? WHEN MY MOM WAS AN ADULT WHO TOOK ADVANTAGE OF A TROUBLED 13 YR OLD KID? She was supposed to

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Be a maternal figure but instead isolated & obsessed over this kid...& I feel like he did whatever he could to survive but till this day no one sees it the same way..

[vjreejr]

Be very careful of the language you use. Too many people throw around terms like "pedophile" not knowing at all what that means.

Pedophilia: the primary or exclusive sexual attraction to PREPUBESCENT children.

Hebophilia: the primary or exclusive adult sexual interest in pubescent individuals approximately 11-14 years old

Ephebophilia: the primary or exclusive sexual attraction to those in later adolescence, approximately 15-19 years old

So, in this case, accusing your mother of being a hebophile is more appropriate. Pedophile, absolutely not!

[Asker]

Okay... you're going to fucking nitpick idgaf what its called... she's a predator

[vjreejr]

Yeah, I am going to nitpick because if you use the wrong words, you can get sued. It's called libel in print and slander if spoken; either way, it is defamation of character. Your mom may be fucked-up and be a hebophile, but she's not a pedophile and that is considered much worse. So, keep in mind that we, as adults, have a responsibility to be careful about what we say when we make accusations. In fact, Elonis v. United States is a current US Supreme Court Case discussing freedom of speech and threats on the Internet. www.scotusblog.com/.../ Making false defamatory accusations on the Internet is just as bad.

So, yes, while likely your mother is a "predator" (your words), you just need to be careful. I know I sound uoptight and nitpicky, but I am actually trying to protect you.

[Asker]

I'm posting anonymously, on a basically anonymous website... no one knows me or her, you're missing the point of my whole post? I admitt I had no idea there was a difference in names for predators who prey on children based on age...

[koullaras]

That's just fucked up, I don't know what to think really.

[Anonymous]

yeah she is... sorry but yeah there's some creepy pervy shit going on there

[Asker]

Thank you! I tried to even tell the kid dude she's supposed to be your mother figure she's evil.. to me its all so fucking predatory even her mindset when I watch shit about these pedos who claim the kid they molested was actually really mature & they felt a connection to them.. I don't know I'm creeped out

[Opinion Owner]

have you met the kid? seen what he's like? but anyways it seems ridiculous that a grown woman who was probably in her 30s right? could be taken advantage of by a 13 year old child. A 13 year old kid who desires sexually a 30+ women... that seems really unlikely. Anyways even if by chance this kid was trying to take advantage of your mom, a grown ass woman knows how to say no if she doesn't consent to whatever stuff they did, sexual or otherwise... looks like she's trying to save face.

[Opinion Owner]

*did he seem manipulating? or manipulated?(the kid)

[Asker]

Yes I met him... we talked for years on the phone read the updates... couldn't fit everything in the main box.. he was a bully to me but honestly I felt sympathy for this kid because his whole life he was thrown away & his one supposed mother figure literally isolated him from everyone else & basically made it all him & her all the time even when he tried to date a girl from work (girls his own age) she would sabotage it... there's not enough room on gag to get into the depths of her fuckery

[Asker]

I think he's deeply confused person as a result of this & gets a lot of flack for something that he can't even comprehend

[Opinion Owner]

That's really screwed up.. it's good that you aren't like her and know how wrong this is. Hopefully you are living a happy life somewhere far far away from crazy pants

[Anonymous]

Yea, she probably is, thats really messed up

[Anonymous]

this sound like it could be a movie

[Asker]

Its not a movie it actually my twisted moms life

[Anonymous]

Women can't be pedophiles

[Asker]

You're a moron.