When was the last funeral you went to and how did it go?

[BLP11520]

Not an easy part of life,😐

[WindAtMyBack]

Last fall. It went OK. I met a bunch of non-blood relatives that I hadn't met before. I also saw my cousin whom I hadn't seen in a long time - it was an even longer time since we really had a chance to talk. We talked quite a while this time and caught up. He's my only surviving cousin. I also saw the town where my mother grew up for the first time.

I went to a funeral about a year and a half ago. This was a guy I had known since I was little. He was the first to die of the local kids I grew up with. I knew his entire family and much of his extended family. So I knew or recognized most of the people at the funeral. He had a rough time for the last year or so - not an easy way to go. For the last year he kept saying "I don't want to die. I don't want to die."

Within a year I lost four people that I had known between forty and sixty+ years. I went to two of their funerals. One I didn't know about until a few months after she died. One was another lifelong friend. I literally don't remember ever not knowing him. That was a private family-only service, so I didn't go - even though it was about as close to family as you can get without being blood related.

Those four ranged in age from 56 to 98. Two younger than me and two older.

[Friendlybro79]

Ugh just recently for my grandma. It went well outside of my dad being a complete jerk.

[BLP11520]

Sorry about that

[Friendlybro79]

Thanks. We got to celebrate her life and it made me realize I want to enjoy life a little more but financially it's been difficult. I'm working on it.

[rosemilk]

i think a few years ago. it was a coworker, and it was traumatizing. could have be totally prevented too. i hate our state health care. also, this funeral was a wake. and i've never been to a wake. so it was really life changing. messed me up for a long time.

[BLP11520]

Sorry to hear that

[Dnice1]

My Grandpa, I was incredibly close to him, it was the hardest death I have gone through thus far in life. I remember not smiling for weeks and crying hard at his funeral.

[sheikalana]

It was my grandpa's nearly ten years ago. It was the first ever funeral I went to. Luckily I haven't been to any funeral since then but is not something I'd like to experience again.

[BLP11520]

I understand that

[BCRanger10]

My college friend's older brother. That was just before the start of Lent, around six weeks ago.

[BLP11520]

Okay then

[docster]

I'm embarrassed to say, 1980. 🙄
The guest of honor was a member of my church and the family asked the children's choir to sing. I didn't know him so it was not emotional for me.

I guess I didn't go to any of my aunt / uncle's or grandmother's funerals because I wasn't close to them and I'm not a people person. If the rapture isn't soon I'll be attending my parents funerals considering their ages.

[exitseven]

My wife had an aunt who passed away maybe 2 years ago. She was a very nice lady and was funny. It was an Elvis based funeral with life size cardboard cutout of the King of Rock and Roll and Elvis records bein played.
Still funerals are never a lot of fun.

[laly520]

friend's funeral

tough day

few months ago

[BLP11520]

I understand especially when they are young

[laly520]

only 21 yo

[Smashingdoozy]

About a month ago. For a friend. It was incredibly hard for everyone there. I ended up having to leave with another friend half way through for a bit because we we were both very overwhelmed.

[HelpfulWoman]

My Nan's, last year.

I wished I'd visited her more before she passed. We travelled on the day and ended up being a bit late which I regret deeply, but luckily the funeral itself hadn't started so we quickly stole in.

[BLP11520]

Death is never convenient

[HelpfulWoman]

for sure!

[Nikki1989]

Two years ago, it was a suicide. Very emotional day.

[BLP11520]

I’m sorry

[JesseP1nk]

My fathers. It was 8 years ago. I dont care about the funeral that much. Its more about the death itself and the fact you will never be able to talk or see that person again. More time goes by you start to forget how that person sounded like and even you start to forgot how that persons face looked. And then people argue about the smallest things... 🤣 without realizing on the next day the other person might be gone forever.

[msc545]

The last funeral of sorts that I went to consisted of scattering the ashes of my close friend Jeff in the ocean off Malibu. I took my sailboat with his mom and several friends and I sailed out about 3 miles out after sailing up along the coast from Marina Del Rey for about 2 hours. My friends mother had put the ashes in a basket which made it a bit easier to actually scatter them, but really it is never easy. It mostly went ok but it was very sad as he was quite young when he died.

[AviatorTom]

It was the middle of winter, a cold and wet rainy day. We buried a distant, but cherished, relative. I was a pall bearer. It was a simple, yet nice, funeral. Seems the only time you get to see all your relatives is at weddings and funerals.

[ProbablyClueless]

A couple years ago... it was the funeral of a guy I used to take care of when I worked in a special needs. It was sad but not unexpected. People with the conditions he had tend not to live very long.

[OfMiceandMen]

It wasn't bad, we did the whole celebration of life thing. I knew the guy and he was only 49, so after the funeral we went to local pub and toasted a few to him.

[jamesgoldman]

My aunt's back in February then my great grandmothers is in April and I'll likely have another before the year is out given a family friend has stage 4 cancer

[BLP11520]

That’s hard

[jamesgoldman]

Yeah it's been hard, had 4 deaths last year... more now than COVID times or before then

[douride2]

My brother past away suddenly near the end of January. I didn't realize how much time we spent together till he was gone. I'm still hurting.

[sage2021]

douride2
I don't want to sound cliche here, but I truly am sorry to learn of your Brothers passing and that you are hurting.
Not to steal your thunder, but it's been six months since my boyfriend Patrick died suddenly. Some days I can't cope with life without him. But somehow we press on.
Take care lady🌹

[douride2]

@sage2021 Thankyou for your thoughts.

[DancingQueen16]

The last funeral I went to was my grandpa's about 5 years ago and it was pretty sad

[BLP11520]

I can relate I have never grandparents now

[Staximus]

My friend and former co-worker, he was only 37 and a really good guy. Died of cancer, it was pretty fucked up.

[Staximus]

That was about a month ago

[jahaims]

Who asks how the funeral went lol. How did putting the body of a person you loved in the ground go?

[BLP11520]

Well, there’s a lot to it finally goodbyes and things like that

[anlgntnfnf]

I can't think of your youth, you're handsome even now

[Twalli]

My grandfather's. His ex, my grandmother wanted a celebration of life. She's the last close family member who died.