How do you stop worrying that you haven’t helped other people enough?

[Anonymous]

In one day, I’ve leant money to one of my best friends for a social occasion, treated my parents to lunch, spent time with my parents, talked to a lonely friend about her sick mum, ordered a songbird horse and carriage toy for my friend’s daughter, shopped for my other best friend’s birthday and done some Christmas shopping for my dad (I bought him two nice shirts, as his clothes are getting old). I started to feel guilty, because it’ll take until next week to finish dad’s Christmas shopping. It’s not even November yet. How do I stop overthinking?

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo I feel you, I'm always stressin' if I'm doin' enough for people too. But you gotta realize you can't fix everyone's problems or be everything to everyone, ya know? You're only one person.

From what you described, it sounds like you're already doin' a ton to help folks! Leavin' cash for your friend, treatin' your parents, spendin' time with people who need it - that's huge. No one expects you to save the world solo.

Maybe try makin' a list of things you're grateful for too, like good friends and your health. could help balance out feelin' guilty. Also do nice things for yourself sometimes!

And don't sweat not finishin' your dad's gifts early - he'd probs rather you enjoy the holidays than stress shoppin'. Just do what you can at your pace. People will understand if it's not perfect.

Chill girl, you're doin great. Can't pour from an empty cup right? Take some you time and stop beatin' yourself up! Your friends and fam loves ya anyway.

[NotTacocaT6969]

You’re only one person.


As nice as it is to help other people, it’s not your job or your responsibility to bend over backwards for other people all the time.


You need time for yourself, the things you need and of course to rest.


If you burn yourself out you won’t be able to help anybody at all anymore.