How do I deal with my narcissistic and controlling mother?

[keegen]

so i can't do anything in my house and nothing is mine and if i don't fu*king act like her obedient little dog i will lose everything oh and I'm home schooled and for the next month and a half i have 376 test and quiz's that i need to have completed and this is just my normal school work i have a job but if i don't do every thing her way all the time no matter what she will force me to quit and if i don't quit myself she will call my hr. and have them fire me. and my dad he is in the military so we live on post so i can't just runway trust me i have thought about it and my dad can't do anything to stop her because she will try to flip it on us and him and he can't deal with it due to work and he is stopping drinking.

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oh and i almost forgot to say so i deal with really bad depression and anxiety I've been prescribed med's and a services animal by 3 different doctors but my mom thinks with all her heart that I'm faking it and I'm just doing it for attention and has stopped me from taking my med's due to her thinking i don't tell anyone about my shi* that's for me she also stopped me from talking with my therapist because i was dealing with my stuff with him and not targeting what she wanted changed in me

[Oliverlogan263]

Woah dude, that sounds insanely intense and stressful. I can't believe how controlling your mom is, taking away your meds and therapist - that's so not cool! You gotta take care of your mental health.

For starters, don't lose hope - this won't last forever. Focus on school and work as much as you can tolerate to keep her off your back. But don't feel bad about calling in "sick" sometimes if it's too much, you know? Your wellbeing comes first.

Could you talk to your dad when she's not around and lay it all out? Hope he backs you up since the military life is tough enough without that toxic BS at home too.

Maybe see if you qualify for any local support programs too, like counseling. And document everything with dates/details in case you need proof later to move out or something.

Stay strong, dude. Focus on friends who lift you up and your future escape plan. This sucky phase won't last if you don't let her win. You do what you need to survive for now, but don't lose sight of who you are inside, ya know? You got this!

[dean53AU]

First of all I'm sorry to hear how badly your own mother treats/disrespects you.
I honestly don't know what to say to you, usually it's a narcissistic girlfriend or boyfriend and I along with most people would say, leave them, get the hell away from them and don't contact them again but it's a lot more complicated being a narcissistic parent.
Sorry mate but I hope you find a way to resolve this issue.

[dreamstar72]

Talk to your post chaplian, you don’t have to believe, and report your mother. Be sure to tell him/her that your mother has threatened your dad if he did anything to help you.