Does watching others do wrong things and doing nothing.. make you an accomplice?

[Anonymous]

I became friends with these 3 girls after a deal was made. I stole our teacher's USB and gave them the answers of several exams. I secretly returned it afterwards and the teacher has been suspicious about how both of them got the perfect score several times but can't prove they cheated. That was the condition to become their friends and they would stop being on my case. I literally pleaded for that friendship, that I'll just anything if they can just leave me alone.

I'm realizing it's not making me happy. They wrongly framed someone (getting that kid suspended; false accusation) and I stood there in silence, doing nothing. I just go along whenever they select someone else as their target. I know they're fake friends and it's wrong what they're doing but feel trapped. I don't want to go back to be ostracized again nor the outcast.

Does this now makes me an accomplice? I never laughed at the mean things they do nor at their jokes. I don't find anything funny. I just don't stand up for anyone, even if they're in the wrong. I just followed them.

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They are popular girls that really control a large crowd at school. It's either being an outcast (and targeted) or being within their group, not going against them.

[Oliverlogan263]

Wow girl, that's a really tough situation. On the one hand, I get why you went along at first - wanting friends is so normal, and they sound pretty mean.

But I don't think continuing to stay silent is OK either. At this point, yeah, if you witness mean stuff and don't say anything, that does kinda make you an accomplice. Even if you don't join in, you're still allowing it to happen by not speaking up.

I know it's hard, but maybe it's time to stand up to them, or at least try making some new, kinder friends on the side too. Don't let fear of being an "outcast" force you into supporting bullying. You seem like you have a good heart - don't let them crush that, you know?

Not sure the best way to handle it from here, but just remember that you don't deserve to be unhappy or feel trapped. Try opening up to a teacher you trust for advice too. Everything will work out - just follow your conscience from now on, girl. You've got this!

[TheStaleMarshmellow]

I have free will as a born human being. I have the choice to not give a single fuck.

[Asker]

I feel bad for the kid that got framed for groping. It's false. My friends told me to either go along with the false accusation or say nothing. I said nothing and when asked if it's true, I said ''I don't know''.