Have you ever felt the pressure to fit in physically with your friends group?

[Anonymous]

Was there or is there currently a point in your life where you feel pressure to fit in with your friend group and change yourself physically like losing weight, dressing a certain way, acting a certain way, so that you feel you fit in. Conversely, have you been dropped from a friends group for not fitting in.

[Xoxocutekitty]

In girl world there's always an unspoken correct balance about how insecure you can be/express about your looks. Too much and it's off-putting, too little and you're probably not validating your friends enough.

It depends on the friend group. I would definitely say it can be helpful to be introduced to new insecurities, so much as it can make a tiny bit healthier/more attractive. Like that one friend who's super into SPF and skincare might help you actually somewhat regularly apply sunscreen, or that friend that's working out 3x a week and keeps inviting you to their class and you go eventually, say once every 2-3 months. It's overall net positive as long as you don't let it consume you or fully restrict your lifestyle (unless you really want to change your life)

[Potteplante]

I've not felt the need to change to fit in, I was used to being the fat friend who didn't care that much about herself about my appearance. However I slowly lost a part of that friend group, partly because my appearance changed for some - other changes cost more.

[Garud]

I try once or twice and if it doesn't work for me I give it up. Because it is too much effort for me which I don't want to do.

If my friends plan to watch a movie but I am not in the mood then I straight away refuse.
If someone asks me too much I just say you pay for the ticket then.

If someone gives me well-intentioned advice that I should wear this or keep my hair like this then I listen but I can't change myself much.

But suppose there are four people and they are talking among themselves and I don't get a chance then I keep quiet or if I feel I am not a part of their conversation or feel bored then I leave from there.

People will call you stubborn, arrogant and crazy but I am happy with few friends

[FoxnEagle]

Hmm...
Chess club, robotics club, and wall ball at lunch; no, for middle and high school, I think everyone was pretty well accepted in those groups.

Now that I'm older? There's definitely expectations to dress a certain way for certain events. I just went to a birthday party for a church mate's 60th and he went fancy; so it was suit and tie occasion. Work party? We had everyone from grease stained wife beater to a dress shirt.

Though, I can't help but feel it is a bit different for guys in general.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

We are social animals. We crave for conformity.
I don't think any infant, toddler, pre-teen or teen can really escape the pressure for conformity. As young adult maybe, it starts there I think, for some, and then it's maybe just a mask of anticonformism, which is conformism in disguise.

For the rest if us, this is conformity for life. It is invisible and untold though, until it isn't anymore.

[Ironic_Method]

My adult friends will sometimes call me out on my weight, making remarks about being too thin because I don't fill out coats or whatever when I'm actually pretty fit. It's more of a "overweight acceptance" rather than "pressure", but maybe because I'm not easily pressured.

[Anonymous]

[PeachyPie93]

No I have never been scared to be on my own.. So if I don't fit in with people or they don't except me for who I am. Why would I want to be their friend?

[MoonFace2]

Sometimes I wished I was a smaller dress size, but besides that, I’m fairly confident about my looks. I’m more self conscious about my personality.

[SuchSightsToShowYou]

This is about breast implants, isn't it?

Your friends are pressuring you to get breast implants, aren't they?

[nevooo]

Judging by how fat women are these days, I’d say no.

[paledreams]

Some people are wiser to have a minimal or very small group

[woahhh152]

Nope. It wouldn't be my Friend group if I feel pressuredre-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

[Aiko_E_Lara]

They've all gain weight and I remained the same and I used to be the fattest.

[Anonymous]

didn't have any friends
so I guess that wasn't a problem then

[Eva1995]

No just pressure kept up but to stay in shape. But for myself.

[Anonymous]

I never had this problem but it is obvious that 10 hot girls will not be friends of an ugly girl.

[dsrice071966]

Yes, I have felt pressure to fit in sometimes.

[Iron_Man]

no way I’ve never been a following sheep

[Jmmmfi4]

PROBABLY... IF I HAD ANY FRIENDS

[elizamichale1]

No not really

[MannMitAntworten]

NOPE!

[LiamJHayden]

Nope.

[Slim57]

Nope. Never.