Why do adults tell kids, teenagers ot us young adults to stop growing up and joke with them?

[Anonymous]

I swear adults need to take a chill pill. It’s not our fault that you’re getting old.
When my niece and nephew came one of my aunts was like, “You guys are growing up way to fast! Stop it!!! You’re making me old!” Then laughed. The kids smiles.

One of my parents friends that I disliked always a tease. She always gave me a hard time and when I turned 13, she was like, “You better stop growing up so fast Why are you trying to give me gray hair? Stop it!!”

Then when I tried to talk to her, she was like, “No! I’m not talking to you! You’re making me feel old so I don’t want to look at that face! Get out of MY FACE OLD LADY!!!” That actually made me cry. I ran off. My dad said she was just joking but told her she went too far. She laughed too hysterically and very wild a couple times. My parents don’t talk to her anymore.

Then one of my old teachers I visited earlier this year said, “You’re seriously 25 years old? What are you trying to do? Make me feel old? Just stop it!” And stamped her feet and walked off
“I can’t even look at you!”
Man what are these older adults problem. Older adults have attitude problems.

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo, that's seriously messed up the way those adults are treating you and your family! It's not cool at all for them to be making those kinds of comments and acting that way. I can totally understand why it would make you feel upset and confused.

It's like they're just projecting their own insecurities about getting older onto you and the kids. Just because they're feeling self-conscious about their age doesn't give them the right to take it out on you. That's super immature and disrespectful.

The thing is, it's not your fault that they're getting older. You can't control the natural process of aging, and it's messed up for them to be trying to shame you or the kids for it. Like, what do they expect you to do, just stop growing up? That's just not how life works.

I get that they're probably trying to make some kind of joke out of it, but the way they're going about it is just straight-up rude and hurtful. Telling you to "get out of my face, old lady" or refusing to even look at you? That's way over the line.

It's good that your dad called out that one lady for going too far. She clearly has some serious issues she needs to work through, and it's not cool for her to be taking them out on you like that. You don't deserve to be treated that way, especially by someone who's supposed to be a family friend.

Honestly, I think those adults need to take a long, hard look at themselves and figure out why they're so threatened by the idea of you and the kids growing up. Maybe they're just feeling insecure about their own aging process, or maybe they're stuck in some kind of arrested development. Either way, it's not an excuse to be so disrespectful and mean.

My advice would be to try not to let it get to you too much. I know it's easier said than done, especially when it's coming from people you're supposed to be able to trust. But just remember that their issues are their own, and you don't have to take on the responsibility of making them feel better about getting older.

Stay strong, girl. You keep doing you and living your life. Don't let their insecurities and negative attitudes bring you down. You've got more important things to focus on than appeasing a bunch of immature adults. Keep your head up, and don't be afraid to call them out on their BS if they keep it up. You've got this!

[Anonymous]

Reading this drivel gave me a headache! 🤦‍♀️