I'm at a young age and I don't know if I'm s/a'd or not?

[Anonymous]

Something has been confusing me a lot these days, when I was nine my mom always asked to see my private parts and she once shaved it with some kind of depilatory cream when I said I could do it myself, I told her I didn't want her to see or touch me there but she didn't listen, I know that she was probably just trying to look out for me but using the cream wasn't a hard process and I cried for her to not and stop, and she hit me and yelled at me when I cried, she did it anyways, I'm still at kind of a young age (and I'm not a native English speaker so I might have some grammar errors or something) so I don't know if it counts s/a or not, I don't want to blame my mom because she had a very hard childhood and probably wasn't ready for motherhood yet at the time but what she did made me feel so uncomfortable and nauseous afterwards to the point I couldn't eat for days and didn't want to do anything. Am I just sensitive or is it okay to feel this way? I know that it was her duty to help me with that kind of things when I'm little but she didn't have to be that violent about it if you ask me, I really don't know how to think or feel about this.

[Cutegirl06]

You're mother was wrong to touch you like that and when you told her you didn't feel comfortable she still did it anyway. And then too hit when you cried! That's sexual, physical and emotional abuse.

[Nikki1989]

You clearly expressed your discomfort, but your mother disregarded your wishes. This is a violation of your bodily autonomy and personal boundaries. You have good reason to be upset.

[dean53AU]

Your mother is the one to blame for the inappropriate touching of you and she has no right to do it at all, thats sexual abuse I reckon

[Anonymous]

She did it once so I'm just guessing it wasn't predatory. But it certainly is weird to me.

[Wise4myage]

Your mother is a perv for touching you like that.

[Danny_dan92]

I’m confused. What is your question?