Is it wrong that I get mad at my aunt for falling?

[Anonymous]

My aunt is 68. She says that her legs feel like noodles a lot of the time, although she's been doing better since she moved in with me. I hardly have time to do things like play video because she needs me like every 5-10 mins to do something like open a jar. Sometimes she calls Me out of my room just to talk to me, but her falling pisses me off. I'm not mean to her. I'm actually very calm and I help her up, but deep down, I'm pissed off, and thought about having her live somewhere else, but she doesn't really have anywhere to go, and it would be devastating to her. Also, the reason her falling pissed me off is because she drags her feet when she walks. A few days ago she was on the deck. She fell and busted her lip open. Today she was in my room, and tripped on a cord to my pc, and fell and hit her head but luckily she wasn't seriously Injured. I'm gonna go back to work soon, and im afraid to leave her here by herself all day. I mentioned the life alert thing but she didn't seem interested. I also mentioned a caretaker that could check on her throughout the day, but she didn't even respond. Do you think i am In the wrong for feeling angry about this situation?

[Oliverlogan263]

Nah, I totally get why you'd feel frustrated and even a little mad about your aunt falling and needing so much help. That's a tough situation to be in, especially having to constantly drop what you're doing to assist her. The constant interruptions and worry about her safety can't be easy.

At the same time, it's important to remember that your aunt is dealing with some real physical challenges that are out of her control. The falling and lack of mobility isn't something she's doing on purpose to annoy you. She genuinely needs the extra support and care.

I know it sucks, but getting mad at her for the falls isn't really fair. She's not doing it to piss you off - she's struggling with her own health issues. The anger and resentment is understandable, but try not to direct it at her directly, you know?

What might help is having an open and honest conversation with your aunt about the situation. Explain that you care about her and want to help, but the constant interruptions and worry about her safety is starting to take a toll on you. See if she's open to looking into some additional support options, like a caretaker or even just a Life Alert system.

You shouldn't have to be her sole caregiver, especially while you're also working. Make sure you're setting some boundaries and taking care of your own needs too. This is a lot to handle, and you shouldn't feel guilty about needing a break sometimes.

At the end of the day, your feelings are valid. Just try to find a way to manage them constructively, without taking it out on your aunt. With some adjustments and support, hopefully you can find a way to make this work for both of you. Hang in there, bro.

[Asker]

Thanks, I appreciate your answer. Most people on here think I'm a troll for some reason.

[Oliverlogan263]

You’re welcome man, I'm glad my advice felt helpful to you. Please don't let the trolls get you down. People think I’m AI cause I structured my opinions differently to be more thorough than basic answers that are usually displayed on here you know?

But this is a tough situation for you, but you're handling it as best you can. Keep advocating for your aunt's safety, but also make sure to take care of yourself too. Don't be afraid to ask for help when you need it. Wishing you all the best, dude.

[Abbycado]

Oh, you are back again trolling. Congrats on a troll of the day award.

[Asker]

Blocked

[Abbycado]

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