Help ill be homeless and have no where to sleep what do I do?

[Sugar100]

I was forced by my mom live in a very far city in these senior apts. She don’t want me move out til I’m married but I had bad luck and never had a boyfriend and I’m 27. I’ll never get marriage or a boyfriend that will live with me.

I feel trapped living with parents and they don’t want me live alone in a studio.
they r very controlling.
my car was having issues and without my consent my dad left my car at a car shop and it’ll be $1000 to fix. I don’t have $1000 to fix the car. So due to his fault he left me with no car. The car might be fixed til Friday so 2 wks.
my dad refused give me a ride to work and parents seemed happy about me losing my job and having no car.

im at work, but I won’t be able return home for my 2 days off. And I don’t have savings til March will be able have $1000 saved.

A hotel for few days would be $200 near my job but that’s moeny I needed to pickup my car next Friday. I have no good friends no boyfriend nothing to help me no family.

[SixFootSexy]

Just a calculated guess: it appears you arrived in this predicament from a string of poor life choices and management skills, coupled with a victim mentality where everything wrong is your life is the fault of someone or something else; in this case, your parents... even though you probably have lived with them rent-free for the majority of your life.

Perhaps they are controlling because you don't have enough money to afford even a month or two of rent, not to mention food, or other necessities. Your car is in the shop, so it's probably a 10+ year old car with 150k miles on it. You're blaming your dad, which is ironic because he's trying to assist, but apparently helped you way too much and you have limited abilities to tend to your own responsibilities and have been insulated from the consequences of failure.

All these mindsets don't suddenly shift and properly align when you get a boyfriend or get married. You'll end up taking out the blame on him for "being controlling" or "abusive" or whatever other nonsense you come up with, even though you chose him. (Nothing is ever your fault, you sweet summer child).

However, you know what? You have the power to change. Unfortunately, change only happens when you're fed up enough to take action.

[SixFootSexy]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uyTAfX7cniI

[Sugar100]

You are wrong. It’s not rent free I have to pay them rent $1000

[Sugar100]

This is y I can’t save to move out.

[SixFootSexy]

If you're paying $1000 a month for rent, they can't really tell you what to do unless you let them, can they? You're a grown woman. Take responsibility for the life you want to have. Try not to burn bridges on the way out.

[Sugar100]

They r very controlling. Like I said only way mvoe out is do it in secret and they will disown me for moving out at 27.

[Sugar100]

U see they even took my car to get fixed at the shop without even asking me or caring if I can pay $1000 or not

[Anonymous]

* Immediate:
* Find emergency shelter (call 211).
* Talk to your work for help.
* Use public transportation.
* Long-term:
* Save for your car repair.
* Find affordable housing.
* Seek counseling for family issues.
* Build a support network.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

As for you Airbnb might be the way to go & renting a room versus renting a hotel room might be easier on your wallet.

[On_cloud_wine]

I agree.. an Airbnb might be the best option… I’m about to change location in my job and it’s pretty cheap compared to the apartments available in that location just until I get adjusted and relocate

[Sugar100]

@On_cloud_wine in going to live in my car and no longer live at my parents senior apartments. That’s y I have no savings as I need pay them rent and pay gas daily to a super far city I hate.

I need march live in my car to finally be able save my checks to move out June. And no longer pay parnets rent and live in my car

[On_cloud_wine]

Whatever you have to do girl.. just save your money like crazy. If you were my friend, I’d let you stay with me until you got your feet back on the ground. Hard work and situations like this will only make you stronger and don’t ever rely on a guy or anyone else! Always save your money! And be careful how you spend it. I know from past experiences, the more I made, the more I spent. That was a life lesson because when things went down, I had nothing, and I had to start all over again ❤️

[Sugar100]

@On_cloud_wine I don’t have any good friends that R girls. My whole life I met envious girls that hate me all cuz of how I dress n look.

I have no family no cousins. No siblings, never had a boyfriend. I have to live life alone.

[Sugar100]

It’s just stressful living with my parents , they r very controlling, they even left me with no car, that’s how controlling they are. They r weird. They want me with no job and no money. They get jelaous if I save money. They want me be a baby stuck with them forveer broke so they can control me.

Once I get my car I plan no longer come back home stop paying rent and I can finally save $1000 or more til June. And live in my car near my job.

[On_cloud_wine]

Move to a city with a fantastic metro system.. you’ll never need a car or have to worry about maintenance. You’ll have metro and uber at your disposal. And the city had more jobs out there anyway. Use that money toward rent

[Anonymous]

Sounds like a youn problem. Poor life management skills. Why haven’t you saved any money all this time? You live w them? You’re a grown up, about 1/3 or more through your life expectancy. You should have had this figured out by now. It’s what grown ups do.

[Sugar100]

Eveything is really expensive.
I had savings but it recently got spent not too long before this issue happened.

[Opinion Owner]

So do you live w them or on your own? I don’t see how they forced you to do anything unless they held a gun to your head. Even then you can still make a choice to do or not do what they say.

[Sugar100]

I live with them and my dad took my car to the shop without my permission now I have no car

[Sugar100]

My family are weird they don’t want me be independent they talk shit of me one time wen I lived alone they were miserable. They want me be stuck with them forever

[Sugar100]

My brother and his wife were talking shit of me the one time I used to rent my own place.

[Sugar100]

Now I can’t pickup my car I don't know what I’ll do now with no car.

[Sugar100]

My dad refuses give me the number to his mechanic friend and there’s no number online to contact him. So I don't know what to do.

I might need wait 2 more weeks and just buy a new car with $1000 from my job?

[Sugar100]

It don’t seem I’ll be able to pickup my car anymore at that place.

[Opinion Owner]

Again sounds like a you problem. You should have had quite a bit of money saved up by this age. Considering you were living w them all this time. Just poor planning on your part. On top of that no one is holding you hostage. You should have figured this out after a year or two if this is how they’ve always been. No one else is fault but you’re own. Take responsibility for your actions or lack of actions.

[Sugar100]

The time I used to live alone my whole family where against me and angry I’m living alone. I do plan move out again but i wid need do it in secret as my parents are that controlling. They even took My car to the shop without my permission. They r super controlling and don’t want me be successful

[Sugar100]

I’ve been difficult save as I have to pay them rent and pay gas daily as it’s extremly far where they live. I’m better off leaving them and living in the car to finally be able save money to move out

[Sugar100]

I pay them rent $1000

[Sugar100]

I’ve never lived rent free

[Opinion Owner]

Ok. Even if you pay then $1000. How much are you making a month?

[Sugar100]

Point is I will no longer be living with them , they r just causing me misery n more issues. And trying to control me. I will finally be able to save once I’m on my own and distant from them and leave in my car.

[Opinion Owner]

Point is you’re not co trolling your own life. Especially your finances. I may be wrong but you probably spend a good amount of your money on nonsense since you still had quite a bit of money left over. And if you didn’t than you need to find a second job or one that pays more. You can’t complain when you’re putting yourself in that position. You’re an adult. You’ve been an adult for 10 years. Time to stop making excuses.

[Sugar100]

Like I said once I move out they will disown me. That’s how crazy they are. Wen I used to live alone they would come to my adress and bother my owner to point ask her if I bring any men inside my Apt 😑 they would be miserable I live alone and want me live with them forverr to control me I would fight with them daily even tho I lived alone they would come to my adress to bother me

[Sugar100]

Luckily I was able to in that time take away the spare keys from my dad from my car as it got to the point they would threaten take away my car so I’m not independent and would be jelaous i rent my own Apt without them.

However as I live with them they were able get my car keys without telling me and take my car to the shop without asking me if I can even afford pay $1000 and left me with no car. I don’t have my own room I have 0 privacy.

[Opinion Owner]

Ok I get you’ve been through some stuff but it’s time to stop kicking this dead horse. You’re almost 30.

[Sugar100]

This is y I plan live in my car to finally be able save my checks and no longer life at moms far city. And rent my own place June.

[Sugar100]

For. Now my money I make next wk will be used to save $1000 to fianlly get my car. Might have my car back til 1st wk March and $1k is a lot. I would have $700 by Friday but then need $100 for food for the week so I won’t have my car back Friday I’ll need wait til Tuesday of March to finally have the $1k. It’s actually more $1,100

[Sugar100]

And then June I’ll run away in secret rent my own Alf as my family will disown me. They don’t want me rent my own place at 27/28 they want me be 30 living with them forverr like a baby. They have gotten mad before wen I had savings they don’t want me independent somethig. Is wrong in their head

[Opinion Owner]

Ok well I wish you the best

[moneymagnet24]

Come to my house