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Am I wrong for wanting to confront my rapist 15 years later?

This happened back in 2010.

I was 15 and still in high school. I honestly didn't know any better. The guy, who was 10 years older than me, added me on Facebook. We established a close bond/relationship through talking on messages and talking on the phone.

He started talking sexually to me online, 15 year old me fell for it expressing sexual tendencies to a 25/26 year old. He said he could help me with those tendencies if I went to his house.

So on the night it happened, I lied to my parents that I was having a sleepover at my friend's house. He met me at the bus stop and we walked back to his home. I was nervous, so he gave me some wine. When it happened, I wasn't in the right mind and I told him to stop several times.

I chose to walk 2 miles back home in the dark, I had the key to the house and when I crashed in my bed at 1 am, my mother walked into my bedroom questioning why I wasn't sleeping at my friends. I made some excuse like 'I prefer my own bed' and she left me alone.

The guy messaged me in the morning saying he enjoyed it. I never replied.

A couple years later, when I was 18/19, I went to visit my dad at work. The guy messaged me within minutes, saying he saw me leaving my dad's work place and wondering how I was doing. I got really defensive in my response, letting him know my dad work's in the building he saw me come out of and I'm not afraid to tell my dad what he did to me 3-4 years ago. The guy never responded.

Now I'm 30 years old, he's probably 45. I will never forget that night when I was 15, really wished I just stayed at home instead.

I just messaged him on Facebook, saying "hey remember me? The girl you knew when I was 15 and you were 25 something?" I want some justice.

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So I messaged my rapist asking if he remembered me.
He did… I wanted to go all in ripping a new one but the moment passed.
He asked me how I was and I told him I’m a biologist my fiancé is a quantum physicist. My rapist went on to say he has autism and always had an interest in quantum mechanics that apparently it scares his girlfriend.
I had small talk about quantum physics with him, when he suggested me and my fiance have a double date with his girlfriend: I blocked him. Absolutely not 👎🏻
Am I wrong for wanting to confront my rapist 15 years later?
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