Girls, how would you feel if your partner offered to hire a surrogate to carry your children for you?

[Anonymous]

Assuming he has the money

I would accept it

I would appreciate it but deny

I would be upset with him

[LauraJ00]

There’s missing context. Is this after finding out she can’t have children, or did you just offer this out of the blue because you don’t like some of here generic features and don’t want your kids to have them? If the former, ok. If the latter, no way.

[LauraJ00]

Genetic*

[Asker]

You know that surrogate babies are still the other woman's biological child?

[LauraJ00]

Not always. You should have specified that. Some couples just inseminate the surrogate with the man’s sperm. You’re talking about implanting a fertilized egg (embryo) into a surrogate?

[red-lipstick-girl]

HNo, I won't accept it, there can't be another mother. If I have a baby, only I will give birth.

[Asker]

Even if the baby is still genetically your child?

[red-lipstick-girl]

Yes, I still definitely won't accept it, but if I have a disease or can't carry the baby, then I can accept it.

[Asker]

Why would you want to carry the baby yourself?

[red-lipstick-girl]

If someone else carries and gives birth, it's their baby, not mine.

[Asker]

Even if the baby is genetically yours?

[red-lipstick-girl]

Even if the genetics are mine, it is not mine because another woman gave birth to my baby and that woman can take my baby by legal means, who would dare to do that?

[Babebytheshore85]

No man in his right mind just randomly hires a surrogate as men are more money conscious than women. If his wife is able to have kids men 100% of the time prefer that option as it's their biological child.

[Asker]

If you wanted to make a financial argument it's a payment one time vs the woman having to take time off of work plus the hospital bills. Also the baby would still be the biological child of the first woman just carried by another.

[Babebytheshore85]

@asker you still have to cover the surrogates bills, delivery, pre and post Partum care. Did you not think this through before asking? You also have to cover the surrogates maternity leave. Majority of men would not choose surrogate unless their wife was having a hard time conceiving. Use your brain.

[Asker]

Perhaps a man would be willing to spend more for the sake of his wife's comfort and well-being

[Babebytheshore85]

@asker wtf are u.. bruh just shut up

[Paradiseequeen]

hell no! If I am able to carry my own child.. then dammit I am

[Asker]

Why?

[Anonymous]

Hard pass.

[Asker]

Why?

[chocolatetwopointo]

nah i dont want kids