No 100% unless there were health issues etc.
A huge part of the bond in a family group is being there with your wife and ‘feeling’ your son / daughter.
The woman also usually hugely bonds with their baby.
Also the guy will bond with the surrogate.
if doing this, adopting would be a far better approach, giving someone a chance at a life, rather than bringing another life in to the world where the parents may not even bond with the baby.
There is also the mental health issue for the child, imagine how they will go through life knowing her mother did not really want them as part of their body..
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If it's a sex surrogate for me, sure, no problem. :-)
I'm past the age of having kids but thinking back to that age...
If we're having problems conceiving, we really want to have kids, and my wife suggested it, a surrogate would be fine with me. We'd have to decide, of course, what kind of surrogate:
1. Artificial insemination of my wife's egg and my sperm in a Petri dish and then implanting the embryo (s) in the surrogate woman's uterus. That makes the child biologically ours.
2. My sperm and the surrogate's egg. Would she be impregnated naturally by me, or via artificial insemination using sperm that I donate? That would make the child biologically mine, but not my wife's.
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It's a risky proposition here in the states. Sometimes down the road the surrogate could want to see the child and take legal action. I've actually seen this happen before. I don't know what the laws on your country are concerning this. It's a discussion though and I wouldn't rule it out if that's how she felt. We'd both have to be prepared In case of a possible fallout with the third party
After fertility issues we considered it. Eventually we went for a more intensive course of IVF which we got our son through.
Part of the reason is the law here recognises the woman who carries the child as the mother even when there's no genetic link between her and the baby, so wife's ovum, husband's sperm but surrogate's choice and surrogacy contract is void was too big of a risk, especially since the father is still financially responsible for the child.
Hence IVF.If we have to, sure that's not a problem. I don't think it would be ideal, and I think there would have to be a good reason for it.
UNLESS there's some medical reason why you can't, here's my statement: "If you're not woman enough to carry the child, you're not woman enough to be my wife".
WTF? Why? You don't want to go through the difficulties of pregnancy? Too much work and pain? Don't want the weight gain to ruin your figure?I'd be fine with it.
I'm also fine with adoption.sorry I do not want another woman to carry my child... If she is going to do that then I should marry her...
Interesting. So you'd want to have surgery to get it out of you and into the other woman? That sounds expensive and risky.
No, I want to kiss my woman's belly and feel my baby inside it
I consider surrogacy immoral. If she disagrees we're not compatible as a couple.
No, I would not mind.
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