Why is it that whenever I visit my parents I want to leave immediately?

[beenherebefore]

I’ve been living abroad for nearly ten years. I have a stable job/career and I’m financially very stable and independent. Moving abroad was the best decision I’ve made in my life both personally and professionally. I usually travel to where my parents live once a year and honestly that’s enough for me and as soon as I step into their house I’m immediately put off and just want to leave is just too much for me. I’ve also noticed that during these past ten years I don’t really miss my family or feel homesick. I do not have the desire to come back home or live in the country where I grew up in. I can also go weeks without talking to them. I feel bad for feeling this way towards my own family.

[Pearl222]

It’s usually due to a clash of ideologies. Living abroad for years would have changed you in many ways, but to your parents you are still a child; and they are set in their ways. You probably don’t like them chiding you and giving opinions about the way you live or behave. It’s normal to feel irritated in such a scenario, but instead of decreasing contact, it would be better if you try and connect with them at their level and visit for shorter durations. That way you can still maintain the bond without turning bitter.

[Thesnowman]

Don’t stay if you get edgy, irritated or angry. But if you only stay a short time then seriously think about visiting often. The other people will probably also like your visits better this way.

[MrChinaski]

This post is an onion. There are so many layers.

[MrChinaski]

If your intent was to vent, then well vented. If you want feedback you are going to need to break it into smaller chunks.

[EmmaMary]

Does your husband travel with you?

[beenherebefore]

Not really. Mostly because we don’t have the same time off.