My extended family are all obese and they get so bitter and gossipy if I want to make my own food what should I do?

[Anonymous]

[Flower7]

It’s best not to go to their events. Besides the fact that you don’t want to eat the food that’s there, it’s also not good that they talk bad about you. I would just start staying home if it was me.

[Asker]

Thank you I just to relate to any in my family they are really not nice people at all. I think it’s best to distance myself for good

[Nikki1989]

Consistency, quiet confidence in your choices, and a refusal to engage in their negativity will be your strongest tools. You are doing the right thing for yourself. Stick to your guns and ignore whatever nonsense they throw at you.

[Asker]

They really just didn’t like me at all I don’t really know them that well since I live in another country just really weird vibes

[genericname85]

i don't understand the context. you mean you're bringing your own food when you eat together? or they're complaining you're making food for yourself in general?

[Asker]

They are all very overweight but when I make my own food I get strong vibes from them they get offended and they post passive aggressive posts about me

[genericname85]

i still am not getting the setting. why would you not make your own food? you mean when eating with your family and they already made food for the guests?

[Asker]

I make my own food when I visit extended family because they eat junk all day long

[genericname85]

well you're violating the laws of hospitality. it won't hurt you to just eat a little junk food once in a while. you don't have to eat it all the time as they do. and i bet you don't hate the taste of litterally everything they eat. you can keep sticking to what you like when you're on your own.

it's not like you have a gluten intolerance and all they eat is bread right? so i think they're right to scoff at you a little bit. yeah their dietary choices aren't smart but still they made the effort to make food for you and you're shitting all over that.

[Asker]

They are literally the most obese people ever and 2 of them have gastric bands

[genericname85]

so that means you're allowed to shit all over their hospitality? you won't be obese and get a gastric band from eating with them once.

[genericname85]

i'm not saying you're wrong about your dietary choices. clearly not. but this is about social aspects.

[genericname85]

like i'm not bringing my ground beef patty to my vegan friends grill party. that's just impolite.

[DryGermanGuy]

You make your own food. End of story. Gossip about them that you have to hide your food from the fat squad. 😬

[Asker]

They mock me about not having a driving license but 2 have them have gastric bands and literally drove 20 metres from their house to pick up a pizza

[DryGermanGuy]

They sound like awesome people to be around… nooot!

[Asker]

I didn’t grow up with them since I lived in the uk and they are in the USA. I just thought I got weird vibes from them that they didn’t like me and bullied me at every opportunity they had.

[Emmytexrex]

It's your choice not theirs try not to make people control what you really want for yourself

[Asker]

I don’t mind eating bad in moderation but I hate they feeling from overeating and one time packed on so much weight

[slatyb]

Ignore them. If you are at a gathering, eat a bit of the food available to be polite. Then go home and eat what you like.

[jahaims]

Not care what they say obviously

[Asker]

I always get so much weird vibes from them and they pick on me for not having a driving license but yet these people drive to pick up pizzas literally 10 metres from their house and have gastric bands

[jahaims]

You are insecure if you care about gossip

[Asker]

Yeah I know not ideal

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