My family tease me about my weight

[Anonymous]

Everyone in my family is skinny and I'm not , I'm actually chubby and they don't stop pointing that out .

Every single day my brother calls me fat ass , fatty or chubzz . If we are at the dinner table eating ( he would say stop eating , you should deny her dinner ) in front of everyone .

And I used to be even bigger , I lost about 50 pounds and I have a good 20 to lose to reach a average weight , 40 pounds if I want to be as skinny as my family is .

I just stopped losing weight and I'm at a plateau and I'm just done with my brothers stupid comments , 50 pounds ago I used to get them and no even after losing 50 ponds , I STILL GET THEM !

Tell me what to do , should I just not eat as he says , will not eating break the fast , instead of my slow 1500 calorie diet that gives me about a pound a week ( which hasn't been giving me that even) should I go to like 500 a day .

I'm crying so bad now , I just don't want to be called fat anymore

can someone give me a plan to follow , I want to shut him up AND FAST .

[Que-aRe]

Hey, your brother is being a jerk. He probably doesn't realize just how much sh*t like that hurts, because he's not thinking about it like that. I'm so sorry youve had to deal with that =( I think other people's suggestions are good - about talking to your parents if they might be understanding about it (although I know not all parents would get it =/).

I think its f***ing awesome that you lost *50* pounds! Seriously, that's an awesome accomplishment! and if he doesn't get that, screw him, you know? Be proud of yourself for it. I know people acting that way can really hurt and make you feel really insecure or self conscious... that happen to me in middle school..my friends &peers would tease me about my body (mostly small breasts) and I had low self esteem and a poor body image because of it. I didn't feel comfortable wearing certain clothes because I knew they would make stupid jokes about it if I did. But when I finally got away from them, I realized that their teasing was most, if not all of the reason I felt so self conscious and crappy about my looks, & I realized I didn't need to feel that way- it really was okay to wear what I wanted, and that other people didn't think about me/my clothes like they did.

Try your best not to internalize the stupid comments your bro makes. He doesn't understand. As much as you can, try not believe what he says. Some people act like others who weigh over "average" is such a big deal, when its one characteristic of their body. But they blow it way out of proportion and make it seem like it's the main thing that matters. *It's not.*There's so much more that matters in a person and in life. I like what someone else said... if you're a skinny a**hole, I'm gonna Not going to like you as much as I will like a person whose got more weight but is nice/friendly/fun/a great friend/a great girlfriend or something else like that.

If his comments are popping up inside your head when he's not around, don't let yourself believe them! If it's getting to you, affirm in yourself that you've made amazing changes with your weight and that's awesome - feel good about it, and when his comments are bothering you, remind yourself that he's not thinking clearly about what he's saying. Weight numbers do -not- in reality matter as much as your brother might act like it does. There are hundreds of things about you, your body, your personality, etc and weight is just one of those things.

I know this might not make him shut up, but I hope that it will help give you strength. Dealing with someone constantly teasing you is really hard, and I think feeling the way you are feeling is totally reasonable and normal. Youve done a really good job with the weight youve lost & getting through his sh*t. I hope some of the suggestions me or others made will help make it little easier. One day you won't be living with him anymore and you'll have people around you who love you (and your body!) regardless of your weight and don't make retarded immature comments!

[Darkfairie17]

Your brother is being an idiot, sorry, but it's true. He doesn't need to be making those comments! If I were you I would be talking to your parents about it, and getting them to talk to him. He has no right to talk to you like that.

He might be skinny now, but I'm sure once he gets older and actually has to work on staying skinny, he will understand where you are coming from.

I was bullied terribly in school for being bigger. I was always bigger and taller than all the other kids. It was hard because it wasn't my diet or lack of exercise that was making me fat. I was sick, I had undiagnosed Hypothyroidism and it got really bad, to the point where I was unable to do anything. My body was having a hard time functioning because it took the doctors so long to figure out what the problem was. So I gained a bunch of weight.

And the kids teased me about it. After I started treatment, I was still heavy, because it does take time to lose weight. It doesn't just fall off like everyone tells you it does. And as a 9 year old kid, that made life hard.

Kids teased me relentlessly because I was bigger than them. But when they were worried about what teams they were on during recess. I was worried about making sure I took my medicine everyday and worried about feeling better finally.

Some people are just incredibly cruel! I hope your brother learns some compassion, because life can take interesting turns. And I would hate for him to have to face a battle with weight one day.

I would stick with what you are eating now. Maybe add in more exercise, try some weight lifting and running, or some pilates. Work on working those muscles. Plateaus are tough, but you will get through it! But don't go on some crazy diet because your brother is being rude.

Starving yourself is only going to make you fail and make you bigger in the end. The best thing to do is slow and steady weight loss!

[icohen]

First off you really need to ignore your brother about this. If you want to lose weight do it because YOU want to, not because someone else says you should. People always find something to criticize so at the end of the day you need to do what will make you feel happy and confident.

Secondly you lost 50 lbs, that is AMAZING. congrats! people don't appreciate enough how much work that is.

Finally don't go any lower than the 1500 calorie diet, it isn't good for you. If you want to lose more weight, then at this point you really need to focus on working out as you will no longer lose weight by dieting alone. Cardio is really important- running, biking, swimming, jump rope. You will also want to focus on abs- you can look up a whole bunch of different exercises for this. and lastly focus on other forms of strength training- look online for different exercises, you can pick ones that will target specific areas of your body that you want to work out.

make sure you stay hydrated! drink lots of water!

Whatever you decided to do GOOD LUCK! and make sure that you are making your decision for YOU and no one else. <3

[martyfellow]

Stay with the 1500 calories. A pound a week is about the most you can lose and still mantain energy and not endanger your health.

[ya_ya_ask_already]

Let me tell you ... being skinny and mean is NOT attractive. And this is what you're brother appears to be. If he were only skinny, I'd say he was less attractive because I personally don't like skinny guys. I prefer men with some meat on their bones. And the fact that he is also mean makes him DOUBLY UNATTRACTIVE. He needs to learn how to talk to women and respect them.

Maybe he doesn't know he's hurting you with his comments? Some people are stupid and don't realize how much their words hurt others. If he does know, I would let your parents know or an adult who can do something to help you.

[xzinax2]

well,at least you're not an evil bastard like your brother.

you should lose weight,not cause of their comments,but cause of your health,if you're 20 pounds overweight-that is pretty bad. find a good diet/workout site and make a plan for yourself,don't stop eating,just learn about what you need to cut out of your diet,and how big your portions should be

[Alexias]

Do not listen to your brother, starving yourself will actually make you gain weight because your body thinks you're starving yourself so the next time you eat it will store more fat to prepare for the next time you starve (if it happens). You're doing really well so far, so keep it up and don't let your brothers douchey comments get in the way, just think when he's older he might gain weight because he does not know how to eat healthy which you are learning to do.

[Moglee]

Start slipping him some high calorie protein bars in his deit that way his body can become just as fat as his ego, that bastard. That'll shut him up fast when he's bigger then you. Also school him at dinner tell him by not eating you only gain more weight, if he'd had a brain he'd know that. In the mean time just know that you may be eating 1500 calories but its what you eat that counts, stick to fruits and veggies.

[HannahC]

running gets you in shape in like 3 weeks if you dedicate.

[IamME18]

we are so the same but I try my best to just ignore them... whenever they tease me I just smile or laugh...