You ever feel like your parents think you are stupid?

[warlock83]

I am 42, and it feels like everything I want to do in life, they want me not to. They want me to follow their path, and it is not what I want. They want me to go through life without wanting to do what I want. I actually caught my father congratulating himself on crushing my dreams. I am 42 and listened to him, who said that my dreams do not make money.

I am keeping it a secret about what I am currently doing. Also, as someone who has an autoimmune disease (MS) a lot of things are stacked against me (I am fine, by the way). I just feel like, because their parents put walls in front of them, they want to do it to me, or as if only certain people are chosen for success. Again, I've had it. Sorry for the rant.

Updates

10 mo

I think it's because I'm single and do not have my own place now (do not listen to boomers when it comes to job decisions)

They think mailroom work gets you through the door. TRhat does not happen anymore
One thing I learned was that Boomers are the weaker generation.

[HollyK21]

I’m not trying to be ageist, but I really feel like at 42 your parents should not have such an impact on the adult decisions that you make. You don’t need their approval or encouragement to do the things you want in life, that time has come and gone, ages ago. Do what makes you happy, they’ll just have to deal with it.

[HollyK21]

Per your update, knowing that you live with your parents brings some clarity as to why they treat you the way they do. I don’t think it matters what age you are or how much you contribute to payments (rent, bills, etc); parents will almost always treat you like a kid while you’re under their roof. Of course there are parents who don’t do that, but the ones who do make it all the more evident that it’s time to move out. You probably won’t get the respect you should until you’re out on your own.

[fonduegirl]

Oh yeah, definitely.

I gotta get married to get them off my back, in India that's a rule.

The fact everything is content in 2025 DOES NOT help. Art has lost its value. Now every monkey thinks he's a writer or something. Chatgpt, screw you.

Also, what's up with all these jobs being marketing? Like ugh, I feel like a huge pile of bumblebees

[Sal_Monella]

My parents thought they knew better what I wanted. I wanted to be like this guy.

They laughed it off, wanted me to go to law school and money talked. I made it to a BA in Economics (pre-law) and then The Nam called. Then I shot people.

[Phoenix98]

No that is not a feeling I've ever gotten from them.

[warlock83]

Lucky

[Phoenix98]

Yeah.