How much of your freedom do you lose after having kids?

[Anonymous]

I want to have kids but I also dont want to lose my freedom

[aaron13547]

You don't lose freedom, you gain responsibility. If freedom is your idea of doing what you want. Having kids you still do the things you want its just the things you want to do become about the kids more then yourself. You don't lose freedom just change your focus from everything you doing being for yourself, to everything you do being for the kids... the purpose is still you. Just now you are all about the lifes you made.

[Asker]

that sucks

[MannMitAntworten]

You aren’t losing freedom. You are however going to discover new things that are important to you and not so much import to you anymore. If that change is a concern, I would suggest probably not having kids, but, as you get older, fewer and fewer of your friends will be single and available to “go out” … and your friends will become younger than yourself or divorced with kids and constantly complaining about their ex - who in reality wasn’t bad.


Have kids.

[jazzy34]

If you’re selfish and can’t imagine putting yourself second, please don’t have kids. Get a pet instead.

[Nikki1989]

If you have a selfish attitude, being a parent won't be for you.

[Anonymous]

You can't have it both ways.

Kids are an investment that will pay off more and more as you get older. Family is what life is all about. If you don't have kids, you better hope your siblings do or you will be VERY alone as you age.

[Opinion Owner]

When did women become so selfish?

[Asker]

@opinion owner

women have always been selfish. the only difference is today women aren't pressured into motherhood or marriage anymore. We have decent paying careers, we dont need to marry a man just to eat

[Asker]

40 years ago, women literally married men just so they can have their next meal. there weren't many opportunities to women back then.

[Asker]

kids grow up and leave, they don't always stick around.

[Opinion Owner]

So what you're saying is that the freedom women have today has allowed them to show their true nature. And that's why the divorce rate is so high and women file 80% of them.

[Asker]

@opinion owner

Thats actually not true

Divorce rates are higher than ever before because motherhood has become harder

Back then women didn't have to work jobs, now women have to work jobs AND do all the housework and childcare

Having kids is easier on men than women

[Opinion Owner]

What you say is true in some marriages, but not most, as used to be the case.

[jahaims]

You shouldn't have kids then. Your whole life becomes about them. You don't even choose when to sleep anymore.

[Asker]

Fuckkkkkkkkkk

[seeyounexttuesday]

Why would you even view kids as a "loss" of something?

[Asker]

Clearly u have never taken care of kids

[seeyounexttuesday]

I have 2. what's your point?

[Asker]

You dont have any

[seeyounexttuesday]

Then who are these two women in my house?

[Anonymous]

none whatsoever unless you're terrible with schedules

[In_Trance]

You don't lose any freedom