Do you feel like you had a normal childhood?

[Anonymous]

Long story short, I started facing forced marriage threats from my dad since I was 5. It started with my parents telling me how they got married and that it is the norm in our culture. I was pretty much feeling really scared and anxious, so one night in 1st grade I couldn’t sleep from fear and anxiety, so went to looking for comfort from my parents (mind you they were still awake and chatting to each other).

I had this “you’re my parents you’re not going to do that to me right?” as my actual intention when confronting my parents, because as a kid I somehow understood all of the downside of forced marriage including marital rape—which now as a grown adult with a BSpsych + master in psychotherapy and training in working with forced marriage survivors/girls at risk, I can confirm my understanding back then was oddly correct and logical for a 5-year-old kid (which I got no idea how child me understood the concept so well just from reading and observation but adults didn’t?).

Anyways, continuing the story, instead of reassurance from my parents, what I got was my dad becoming furious, red, and started yelling about obedience because apparently I wasn’t “submissive” or “obedient enough” for a Asian little girl. I was constantly seen as a disrespectful brat because I wanted autonomy, and they are more than wrong, because revenge is the main thing that I aimed for.

I wasn’t just a disrespectful brat, I started having this desire to kill and to destroy anyone that attempted to hurt me especially and specifically my family. When i was 7 years old the plan was final, how i want to live my life, how i will destroy people involved if i were forced by my parents to marry, how much force would be appropriate, who to hurt and not to hurt,… back then i grieved my potentially muddy future, and now i grieve for my lost childhood.

Anyways, i’m interested if you had a normal childhood

Yes i had a normal childhood

No i didn’t

Not sure?

[AvaRay]

My childhood wasn’t something sweet or easy to share publicly..

But I’m grateful for everything God allowed to happen in my life, in my childhood n past, even up until now..

Those experiences shaped me into the person I am today..

If life were always easy n sweet, we wouldn’t learn anything or develop our character..

It’s the struggles n hardships that make us stronger, more resilient, n able to rise higher not bitter..

I believe that whatever happens in our lives brings goodness..

We might not understand it now, but we will one day..

[Nikki1989]

Nope. My parents were never around, and when I was 12, they dropped me off at a cousin's house, and I only saw them once more after that, four years later. I had other people who were good role models, which helped me get through it, but my parents were almost nonexistent, working two jobs and going out with friends in their spare time.

[InknKink]

How normal is normal?

If I were to tell my story here, I'm sure most people could find something to relate.

Even if I'm 1 in 1,000,000... that still means there are 7000 people exactly like me.

[DryGermanGuy]

Oh yeah. „Boring“ and stable middleclass upbringing in safe suburbia with two state-employed parents and nice grandparents.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

My childhood was borderline idyllic, especially when compared to yours. It probably helped that I had one parent who went to therapy before I was born and that rubbed off on the other parent.

[MemeSupreme]

do you live with them still or argue about it

and i know for certain that i did not lol

[Asker]

i live on my own now and we don’t talk about it it

[AngryCarl2]

Not compared to other kids, no. Then again, what is normal?

[AgentG111]

What you consider normal may not be normal based on my up bringing it may be normal or okay for me and not you.

[Anonymous]

yep. till this day I still know there are only 2 genders and global warming is a hoax

[Asker]

Sounds like you are beyond helping my dude. Have fun suffering from global warming without even knowing it:) While unable to differentiate between biological sex and gender:)

[Opinion Owner]

nah you don't believe in that garbage either but keep telling yourself you do

we'll see when the world ends in 2050 lol

[Tangxiaoxue]

That's normal. Every era is different. Every generation has different values ​​and ideologies.

[Asker]

dude that is not how global warming works lol just because the world didn’t end in 2050 doesn’t mean global warming is not real lol

[Opinion Owner]

they've been screaming about global warming for decades and nothing ever happened

even then, most people would rather be at a warm tropical beach in the Bahamas than in the snow

white people are trying to get tan skin instead of looking like pasty vampires even though a colder climate would suit them more, black people don't even want anything to do with the cold

so much for global warming lol

[Asker]

It takes only one google away:) but hey if that is truly your belief then facts can’t do shit

[Opinion Owner]

and it also takes going outside, touching grass and experiencing life to see google is full of shit

[Asker]

And you should take your own advice for once, and maybe use google to do your research instead of facebook and shady blogs

[Opinion Owner]

I don't need Facebook or shady blogs to see global warming is a hoax

the people who believe in global warming don't even act like they believe in global warming with their motor vehicles, electricity usage, violent riots and protests firebombing at buildings and property

[Asker]

alright so you just admitted you understand what contributes to global warming yet you are in denial? Is it anxiety of dying? Anxiety that your bloodline might not have an earth to live in? Just because people destroy the planet while screaming “global warming” doesn’t mean global warming ain't real, their actions of destroying has real consequences tho.

[Opinion Owner]

the sun is what contributes to "global warming". human activity makes very little impact overall which can be reversed by the environment anyway

nvm that greenhouse gases are less than 1% of the total atmospheric composition

[Asker]

the thing about being well informed is acknowledging there are multiple contributors to a problem. But hey you do you buddy

[Opinion Owner]

being well informed doesn't mean believing every crap you see on the internet especially when it contradicts basic scientific truths

[Asker]

dude global warming is not some craps on the internal it is scientifically researched? Dude i can’t tell if you’re trolling or genuinely meaning it

[Opinion Owner]

scientifically researched? lol their entire solution is to increase taxes and have dumb nations give away billions of dollars to some organization that does jack shit overall

[Asker]

Not saying they used tax money for exactly what they promised they will, but you do realize that it cost money to solve a big problem because people don’t work for free?

[Opinion Owner]

don't work for free? these people don't even work at all except give lectures to the whole world once or twice every year and then disappear again for the rest of the year

these people living in their expensive mansions built upon our taxpayers money while the rest of us live paycheck to paycheck

[strateguy632]

2nd,

[FateofOphelia]

Far from normal

[jahaims]

Nah.