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My wife and I have 3 nieces and 2 nephews. We have them over for dinner once in a while and play board games and then bring them home for bed after we are done.
One time we had a day planned out weeks in advance for use to have one of the nieces over the 2nd oldest. We had the day planned out for what we were doing including having her favorite games and movies to watch. She is 6 years old so we planned accordingly for her age.
My wife went to pick her up and came back with her and one of the nephews who is 9. He said that he was board at home and wanted to come. I admit that I was surprised and annoyed that my wife didn’t even call to ask me if it’s ok. She just assumed that it was without calling or texting.
If she did call or text I don’t know if I would have said yes or not I believe I would have said no.
He was very rude the whole time he was here and was back talking to me pretty much the whole time. I couldn’t bring him back home due to the fact that the weather was bad outside.
She and I got into a huge fight after we dropped off the kids. I told her that I grew up that it was wrong and inappropriate to invite yourself to someone’s house at all even though your sibling or siblings were invited.
My question is this. Was i wrong to snap at my wife about this and I’m overthinking it, or was it in the wrong that the nephew just invited himself over.
Do I bring this up to his parents?
One time we had a day planned out weeks in advance for use to have one of the nieces over the 2nd oldest. We had the day planned out for what we were doing including having her favorite games and movies to watch. She is 6 years old so we planned accordingly for her age.
My wife went to pick her up and came back with her and one of the nephews who is 9. He said that he was board at home and wanted to come. I admit that I was surprised and annoyed that my wife didn’t even call to ask me if it’s ok. She just assumed that it was without calling or texting.
If she did call or text I don’t know if I would have said yes or not I believe I would have said no.
He was very rude the whole time he was here and was back talking to me pretty much the whole time. I couldn’t bring him back home due to the fact that the weather was bad outside.
She and I got into a huge fight after we dropped off the kids. I told her that I grew up that it was wrong and inappropriate to invite yourself to someone’s house at all even though your sibling or siblings were invited.
My question is this. Was i wrong to snap at my wife about this and I’m overthinking it, or was it in the wrong that the nephew just invited himself over.
Do I bring this up to his parents?
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Yeah you were wrong and being an asshole.
Just curious on what makes me wrong and an asshole?
Your wife did the best thing in the situation for her nephew, and not really something that requires your approval. So then you took your anger at your nephew out on her.
True however if you look at it from someone who wasn’t raised by going to families homes or without being invited and it’s considered rude and disrespectful then would I be out of line that way.
You’re taking it out on a kid and your wife. End of story.
Do you hate him?
No I don’t.
I love all of my nephews and nieces. It’s the fact that we had specific plans for our niece that we knew she would enjoy and that he wouldn’t.
So your issue is with the fact that he decided to join in on his sister’s fun, the fact that your wife didn’t give you a heads-up, or the fact that he came along at all?
It’s the fact that I was raised up if you go to families homes or without being invited and it’s considered rude and disrespectful. I have even been driven home by my uncle because I wasn’t invited over.
The fact that my wife didn’t contact me about it was annoying but it was more to the fact that we had to re arrange the whole day because of the fact that we had a girls day planned for her niece and we know that he wouldn’t like it and complain about it.
So your issue isn’t with your wife, it’s with your in-laws. Talk to them