Are you experiencing this situation? What should I do?

[Anonymous]

I'm a university student and I moved into my own apartment this year, but I feel like my older sister and younger brother can't accept it. Getting back to the point, my sister, who doesn't respect my boundaries and is secretly jealous of me, said to me after welcoming me home from university, "Your face looks chubby." And that day I had tied my hair up, and I'm a thin person, while she used to say that her face looked chubby when she tied her hair up, and I would tell her it suited her, and I always supported her :) Speaking of today, my brother asked me about someone I follow on Instagram, even though it's nobody's business and didn't seem like something anyone was curious about. I told him it wasn't his business either. And guess what? My sister asked me this in the past, about another follower of mine. Of course, I didn't think she was jealous back then, but now we don't talk or communicate. Because I had told him before, since he had pressured me, that my life doesn't concern him. Now it seems like my older sister is the one who made my younger sibling ask the question. I've removed my sibling from my followers because they asked that question. Do you think I should take my sister out too? Because these actions have started to bother me.

[SueShe]

If you have any suspicions about siblings interacting with your social media or that you think that they interfere with your social life, then yes, take them all out.

A possible consequence may be that you might upset the one sibling you are not sure about and you may have a family feud against you.

Best of course would be not to have any social media at all and you simply avoid all kind of issues of that kind. Simply cancel all your social media. Who needs virtual friends anyway when you can have them in flesh and blood.

Social media is the gangrene of modern society and you are experiencing it first hand.

[Asker]

I'm not responsible for their thoughts; if I set boundaries for them, they should respect them because I do the same, even though I've tolerated it repeatedly and conveyed the message that I'm aware of the situation. They don't show me this attitude, and yes, this is being done deliberately, and that bothers me. That's why I've removed many friends from my life, and I don't regret it. I realized I'd actually done the right thing when I took them off. Expecting a jealous person to mature is a waste of time. In short, I think everyone should know their place and be respectful 🤷🏼‍♀️

[Asker]

My brother said that person also sent him a friend request and that's why he asked me, but I don't know if he's telling the truth or lying, but I've already unfollowed him and haven't replied to his last message yet. And because I was triggered, I unfollowed my other sibling at the same time. So, there's a possibility I've been misunderstood. Do you think I should offer an explanation or just leave it at that?

[Avicenna]

Minimize contact with them if they’re going to behave like that?

[In_Trance]

You live on your own... That's all that matters.
Stop talking to them

[Asker]

Should I also remove my sister from all my other social media accounts? Do you think this creates unnecessary drama or is it an appropriate approach?

[In_Trance]

It's legit. Tell them to take their crap and fuck all the way off.

[Asker]

My brother said that person also sent him a friend request and that's why he asked me, but I don't know if he's telling the truth or lying, but I've already unfollowed him and haven't replied to his last message yet. And because I was triggered, I unfollowed my other sibling at the same time. So, there's a possibility I've been misunderstood. Do you think I should offer an explanation or just leave it at that?

[In_Trance]

Leave it as is