Why does my guy friend think I’m the most beautiful girl in the world when I’m overweight?

[Anonymous]

Growing up, I was the chubby tall girl. I was fine when I was like 3-7 but when I was 8 I gained some weight. Middle school BOOM I gained a lot of weight from 186-199.
high school I went from 199-242lbs. 5’8-5’11. I was a lazy student when it comes to sports, active things and my PE teacher flat out told some students that they are/not active. She bluntly told me that I am NOT active. How humiliating.
Boys especially cute ones NEVER paid any attention to me and only wanted the slim, cute girls. High school wasn’t any better. The jocks or good looking guys only talk to me to get to my gorgeous, slim/thick hot friends. My guy friend who I’ve known since 2nd grade was the only boy that notices me. He always asks me out, to school dances and prom. I reject him so many times because quite frankly I wanted a hot boyfriend but they always liked the slim, beautiful girls. Most guys like cute/hot girls. I was the DUFF (Designated Ugly Fat Friend). I lost weight and I gotten men’s attention and started dating at 20. My relationship never lasted and I’m single still. My guy friend says I’m the most beautiful woman he ever ladies eyes on and he knew I was “the one” the first day he laid eyes on me. He was a chubby fat boy. He’s losing weight but still chubby. I gained some weight back and now I’m 250lbs. I would thought he would like a hot girl but he always chased me. Even now he admits that he’s in love with me and has been very consistent in texting me more, sending love letters. I keep telling him I only like him as a friend.

why can’t he find ANOTHER GIRL? There’s a lot of women he can give a chance but he only wants ME! I’m not his woman or the one. He kept asking, “Why can’t you see what I see? You don’t need to be skinny or hot to be beautiful and besides you’re way hotter than those gorgeous women and I like women chunky.”

[Viola_456]

Maybe he likes chubby girl many guys have a thing for that.

[Asker]

I mean that’s great but I don’t like being chubby. I’m working on losing weight. You can’t even carry a chubby woman.
When I lost weight before, my guy friend admitted he didn’t think he had a chance with my anymore because I looked “hot”. Oh please!

[Viola_456]

Okay but why do you talk about him like he did something bad? From what you said he didn't do anything wrong he just likes you

[Asker]

He didn’t do anything wrong. He STILL likes me after I told him I only want to be friends and rejected him SO MANY TIMES! Why can’t people just give up. That’s why I don’t respond to his text messages much.

[Viola_456]

And why are you so angry about it? If he botters you just ignore him 🤣

[Shy-boy53]

You come to appreciate the person as a whole , not by the physicality of someone. He obviously feels that you are , so accept it

[Asker]

I just can’t accept it. I do like my crush in college but my best friend said forget him and accept that I developed feelings for my guy friend and take a chance in love. She told me everyone can tell that he’s had a crush in me for years and he always stares at me. Always sits next to me and asked me out numerous times. She said I FINALLY realized what an amazing man he is and he would make an amazing boyfriend and so many women KILL to be in my position. Accept that I'm in love and go for him. The thing is I don’t want to date him. He said he knew i was the one says day 1 in 2nd grade. He used to follow me around everyday and I got irritated with him and screams to back off. He tried to impress me.

[exitseven]

he has known you for many years and has loved you for a long time. It;s not easy to just turn that off.

[Asker]

I know but he needs to understand that he’s missing out on other women because he keeps chasing after me when I told him I only like him as a friend. I already like someone at my college. My best friend said I should tell my guy friend because he is going to be heartbroken when he finds out you like someone else. Why should I? I’m can date who I want. I rather break his heart than lead him on.

[exitseven]

hope springs eternal. But what is it about hime that disqualified to be in a relationship with you.

[Asker]

Why are you asking?

[exitseven]

it is a question that you should be asking yourself

[HollyK21]

Here goes Amazonchick again on her weekly rant about the friend she won’t get rid of @Abbycado.

[Anonymous]

Everyone has different tastes, you probably have guys you like that not a lot of others do. We all have that.

[Pterodon]

He’s into beefcake

[Asker]

What in the hell? Lol

[Pterodon]

I prefer a little weight on a woman myself

[Asker]

Why? You want her to be fat? So many men like fat women

[Pterodon]

I didn’t say fat or obese. Stop misquoting me

[Asker]

You’re the one that said it not me. Good day to you sir