Why would my friends hook me up with a fat guy just because I’m an overweight girl?

[Anonymous]

I have never had a boyfriend in my life. Guys would NOT look my way or give me the time of day. Guys I like always liked the slimmer or fit girls. It’s always the cute, hot girls that get the guys. My friends are shorter then me (5’3 and 5’5) and I’m 5’11”

Fir example my shorter friends are slimmer (one is curvy but fit and the other one is thin but also shapely) they have cute guys falling for them. Average guys like them too. They’re boyfriend have been so hot it cute.

Me? Nada. I never had cute guys or fit guys hit on me. Well some did. Some guys talk to me only because they were interested in my slim friends. My crush ended up having a girlfriend and she’s petite and thin. He is like 6’3, fit and in shape. I was heartbroken. My friends has hooked me up before but it’s always been with fat men! Or overweight men. Just because I’m overweight I have to date fat guys. I did give one of them a chance but it didn’t go far. I pulled my best friend aside and said, “Look not to be shallow or anything but why do you always seem to hook me up or find guys that are…. no offense FAT? I mean the guys you guys date or get hit on are CUTE but come in. Who do you think I am?”

Then she said, “I don’t know, a shallow, ungrateful brat to her best friend that tried to hook you up with a sweet guy? That explains why you’re single. Because give him a chance. He’s such a sweet guy and he thinks you’re beautiful. Plus it’s better to stay in your own league. Cute, fit, good looking men will break your head and no offense aren’t going to want to date an overweight girl.”

Wow….. I told her that was low.

[Finchie40]

Just tell your friends’ to stop trying to set you up with someone and that you will find your own boyfriend without their help. Tell your friends’ that you aren’t into fat chubby guys’ and tell them the type of guys’ you are into , so they know not to try to set you up with someone that isn’t your type. Some friends’ think it’s their responsibility to set their friend up with someone , because they don’t want you to feel left out , especially if they are getting a lot of attention from the opposite sex. I had friends’ try to set me up with girls’ without my consent , and I told them to stop doing it , when I am ready to meet someone I will do it on my own. but Thanks for thinking of me, but I don’t want or Need your help , if I want or need your help , I will ask you , but otherwise stay out of it all together. The truth is some friends’ love trying to play Cupid and unfortunately it’s a very slim chance that they will succeed on doing so. So tell them they are wasting their time. Only you can decide on what you like and don’t like. And the type of guys’ you like are out there , I have a few slim fit guy friends’ that like chubby girls’ . That would completely ignore the slim fit girls’ and chase after the bigger girls. So just goes to show not everyone likes the same type of no matter what their body type is. I always been a broader guy with a mixture of chub and muscle , and I like the slimmer girls’ and I barely ever had problems landing them , I realized a lot of slim girls’ like being with a broader guy because she loved being with a guy that she felt safe with. My slim fit friends’ had their reasons for liking bigger girls’ , so again they are out there

[Asker]

Yeah you have a point. That’s funny you say fit guys chase chubby women and ignore fit women because that’s never happened to me! I mean one time a cute gym guy winked at me and smiled when I checked in to the gym and not my slim friends. I thought he would flirt with them. One of them said that guy smiled at me and checking me out but the other one looked shocked that a fit guy would like me.

[Finchie40]

I’m sorry to hear your friends’ are stereotypical that way and just assume only bigger guys’ will like you. I blame social media for warping peoples’ minds to think that way. My guy friends’ that like bigger girls’ ended up marrying bigger girls’ and they are happy as can be , So they are out there.

[Asker]

Thanks

[OneViewpoint]

You're living in delusion. You want nothing to do with a fat guy yet you're a fat girl expecting tall fit guys to trip over themselves to date you. Why would they? They feel the same way about you that you feel about fat guys.

Your friend is correct. How the hell is she gonna manage to find some tall fit guy to date her tall fat friend. You have 4 choices...

• Lose the weight and get in shape (build some muscle). Change your lifestyle.
• Keep waiting for some fantasy hot hunk who'd rather date a fat girl than a hot girl.
• Date in your own league. Find a fat guy who doesn't care about his appearance and fitness or yours.
• Live your life alone.

Make your choice and live with it. Take accountability for your choices. If it doesn't matter enough for you to change, just admit that and accept that decision.

[Asker]

Hey you didn’t have to go there calling me the fat tall friend even though I am. I did try losing weight but my weight won’t go down and my body won’t let me slim down so why bother? I don’t understand. My slim friends have cute guys and even cute boyfriends so why can’t I? There’s fit guys that like big girls you know. I’m sick of them going after skinny , slim or fit girls all the time. I don’t have to date a fat guy if I don’t want too.
My other friend said I need to stop being so shallow. Movies aren’t like real life and our friend is right, most cute or fit guys aren’t going to want to date an overweight woman so a fat overweight guy would be my best option because it’s better to stay in my own league. But they get hooked up with cute or good looking men! The said so what?

[Anonymous]

What do you expect? A slimmer fitter guy to go out with you when thefy could prob easily guy a slimmer fitter girl.

Don't have ago at your friend when she was trying to hook you up with someone who is probably having trouble getting dates just as much as you are.

Dating isn't easy, I'm not saying you have to settle but when you are overweight the dating scene becomes more difficult

[Asker]

And is not difficult for my slim friends? They always get guys hitting in them. They’re in great shape

[Opinion Owner]

Exactly, they a few in great shape, you arnt and having trouble finding a slim fitter date so your friend is finding you overweight people just like yourself that you can go out with, maybe your rnt attracted to them but you can't complain you can't get dates

[Asker]

We’ll I’m sick of people only hooking me up with chubby or overweight men. I complain to my mom and she said she should be glad any guy is interested because it’s hard for us overweight women to fine dates. My mom is married so why is she talking. She was overweight as a child and lost a lot of weight when she met my dad. My mom also said my friend had a point even though there are men that do love bigger girls but it makes sense for me to date my own league. Love is love and I can’t complain

[Asker]

Plus I can’t believe she roasted me and called me an ungrateful shallow brat.

[Opinion Owner]

There are men who do like bigger women but those are mostly fetish men and other men are bigger men who are as lonely as other bigger girls who just want to find someone to be with but hey good luck to you.

by the way if you can, send me a pic of your actual body type of you or just a picture of a person round your size so I can see how big you aee and see what chance you have with a slim fit guy

[andreasderjuengere]

If your friends annoy you, then

just get one out of your own initiative. I don't see the problem... or do I?

[Asker]

I guess so?

[SenRen]

Well first off damn im sorry you had to deal with that and second where are you from because im a 6'3 skinny guy and i prefer thicc women over slim/athletics mean girls like your so called friends

[jahaims]

Fatties get fatties obviously

[Asker]

No that’s not always true. I’m sick of them only hooking me up or only finding fat guys for me just because I’m a chubby big girl.

[cavedweller1973]

Mane they were just trying to help

[Asker]

Yeah but her to tell me that guys wouldn’t want to date me because I’m overweight s pretty harsh.

[SenRen]

I dont know where your at but there are actually a lot of skinny guys like myself that prefer to date women of your type

[Asker]

@SenRen yeah right