Is it hypocritical of me to not want to date fat girls even though I’m fat?

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Okay I am obese but I am not a fan of dating fat girls. The reason for this is that I think a woman should always be thin because unlike men women rely on their looks to get by and they have very few responsibilities as women that include looking good (I. E. being thin, always wearing makeup and having long hair) and taking care of men and making babies. I just feel as if that it is a woman’s job to always look good for men since they have to rely on their looks to get by.

MCheetah · Accepted Answer

Yes, it's hypocritical as f*ck. If you can't provide what you want in a partner (or the opposite sex equivalent of it), you shouldn't be demanding it in someone else. I tell this to women all the time (the 4'11" ones who won't date a guy less than 6'0") and it's no different for men. Also, both men and women tend to dislike overweight people and find them less attractive, and I'm 300 lbs saying this. Only, I actually like full figured women and would even date a girl who outweighed me (350-400 pounds is my limit).

I hate saying this, but it needs to be said: you sound like an incel. And I don't mean the SJW "I'm not a Progressive beta male" version of an "incel," but like an actual, "Virgin with Rage, 2 demanding a 10" incel. A male-oriented version of a feminist. And due to SJWs, I normally HATE using that word. But nigga... Seriously? Can you even see your own dick?

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

It’s ok that you have your preferences on what you like and what you are attracted to but to be a hypocrite about your views on women isn’t going to get you laid, when you realize everyone is a beautiful person whether they are fat or skinny etc.. , and realize looks aren’t really everything , you might have a better chance at getting a girl , Accepting yourself for how you are is is equivalent to accepting someone else on how they are, we all have flaws and we are all imperfect people, To say a girl has to be skinny is a complete false statement , I know plenty of fit guys that like chubby girls and I know fit girls that like chubby guys , it comes down to being yourself and accepting others from the heart , if you can’t do that then you will have a very hard time getting someone to be attracted toward you.

Seinna · Accepted Answer

You can have preferences and you're entitled to your opinion but women whose "responsibility is to look pretty, wear make up and have babies" also have preferences.

And those that put any kind of effort into their looks most likely will expect the same from their partner and will not date a fat guy.

iseekpinetrees · Accepted Answer

Yes. And if u want a healthy woman you'd have to have a great personality and good view of the world. Like being a happy mother fucker that's always telling jokes.

People like what they like you may find a woman who likes you but obese is only one reason why someone might not like u.

ArztSchlachthof · Answer

Okay, first off - I will ignore what you said about women because it's so simplified it could trigger a lot of them and I personally can't agree. Men have it a lot easier, many of us don't even need to do anything to look handsome, yet women need to waste a lot of time buying and applying a vast number of products in order to "fulfil the standard".

Onto the question - both yes and no. You can get fit yourself, you are just making excuses that will convince you women have it a lot easier, but they still don't get fit - you are a hypocrite in that context as you can do just the same.

No, you are not a hypocrite - in a deeper manner. People often don't date their mirrors, right? So you probably want a partner that's better than you or different in a certain direction. Some "thin" girls do like fat guys and vice versa.

dragoblack · Answer

Its not the "not wanting to date bigger women" that makes you a hypocrite, it's the way you treat and think of women.
I for one don't like dating bigger women, just for the fact many i have met, though can have great personalities, have super toxic habits they don't want to acknowledge and work on. They are welcome to do what makes them happy, but it doesn't mean i have to date them.

You on the other hand, treat all women in a certain way that you believe they should be. That's what makes you a hypocrite and an INCEL

PinkMichae · Answer

You are indeed a sexist hypocrite. If she takes care of herself why would she want to be with a man that doesn't take care of himself. We aren't your baby making sex slaves here to serve you.

It's ok if both the man and woman choose to have a traditional relationship. As long as you treat her as your equal as you each contribute.

Anonymous · Answer

I think you are trolling. You are asking for getting hate. You can't be real. I wish you only ask the question without saying a shit. Now you make yourself a bad person by adding details to your question. Look you can prefere what you want but your sexist or misogynistic views make you a bad person. I have no problem with dating fat men as long as he is tall although i am thin but i would never date a guy with such sexist views.
In short your phsyical preferences ain't the problem, but your misogynistic views are the problem. So nothing is wrong with you for prefering thin women but your views are problematic

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

Yeah, kind of, but at the same time, some women are hypocritical with their standards anyway, like is a women who's ugly without makeup, but pretty with it, worthy of dating a good looking guy who doesn't wear any of that or a women 5 inches shorter than average, worthy of dating a guy who's 6'4 ?

Have whatever standards you want, just understand that not everyone likes everything.

pjf1958 · Answer

Yes, it' is hypocritical. Ask yourself this, if your beautiful, girlfriend suddenly gained a great deal of weight due to some underlying medical condition, would you leave her? if yes, then you'd better re-examine your definition of what loyalty means.

AndyFo · Answer

Well I could never date a really really obese woman as I would not find that attractive even though I am obese myself.. however I do not have the same reasoning that you seem to have which is chauvinist if I am being honest. There is a big difference between attraction and thinking one is ugly, all people are beautiful to me however not all people are attractive to me. I would get out of that way of thinking or your gonna be really lonely in your life.

420Rachel · Answer

Wow, you're an asshole. Yes you're hypocritical and have a very negative view of women. We don't exist "just to look good for men".

Azura_88 · Answer

You're obese and ugly as well.  So unless you're a millionaire, no woman would want to be with you either. There are more cute looking and smarter guys for better women.

siseñor · Answer

maybe if you lose a little fat you'll have more room to chat. as of now, the audacity of hearing somebody who can't take the time out of their day to stay in shape judging others for doing the same is amusing lol

JoJoiLL · Answer

I opened this with the intention of saying "no" because personal preference is not the same thing as being critical or judgmental. Then I read the rest of your post. Yes you are a massive hypocrite.

xgirlxgirl123 · Answer

Don’t worry, I can guarantee that no woman will EVER look in your direction

LeeannaDD · Answer

You can think whatever you want about how women should or shouldn't look, but your gonna have a hard time finding a skinny girl who likes big guys. Not impossible just very improbable

nickaboy · Answer

Yes you are a fucking hypocrit.

If you want a healthy woman you should be healthy as well.

I Have a healthy body but still would date a girl that is a bit overweight. Offcourse I have limits Just my preferences but I make sure I myself fit in to those limits ass well IF I was a fatfuck like you I would date fatfuck women or at least get fit before wanting a fit woman.

Commander_Red · Answer

Being obese aside, I'm curious who would want to date someone with such a backwards view about women. Ugly ain't just an outside thing 👀

IveGotNoName · Answer

Not only are you hypocritical, you also have a very messed up view on women... I don't rely on my looks at all.

Mladenn · Answer

Yes, its also almost disgusting. I met many fat girls that dont want to date fat guys, so she approaches 6'0'' slim / fit guys thinking that she is going to have sucess, and surprise surprise, they dont want her.

Smegskull · Answer

No. People in relationships don't tend to value the same things in each other.
As long as you are willing to meet as many of a girls demands as you place on her it's fair... It won't make her happy because you are unlikely to ever have as many as your partner but that's a them problem.

Anonymous · Answer

No. Hypocrisy refers to things that are spouted as universal principles but then not followed. Your dating preferences are not universal principles unless they are specifically stated as such.

It’s just not realistically going to have in that state though. So if you’ve got that understanding in mind, then I thing you’re fine.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

Nope not at all. You have a preference as does most people. Whether or not you can find someone like that who doesn't feel the same as you is another matter.

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