Is it fair my friends only set me up with fat guys because I’m chubby?

[Anonymous]

I’m a tall, heavy, chubby girl. All my life I’ve been ignored or rejected by guys I had crushes on.

I’ve only had one boyfriend in my life and it only lasted two months. He cheated on me with a slimmer girl and he’s fit/chubby.

My friends always hook me up with fat guys. There’s this one guy that they want me to introduce me too this guy that finds me beautiful. I pulled my best friend to the side, “No offense but why do you always hook me up with fat guy? What kind of girl do they think I am.”
Then she said, “I don’t know a ungrateful spoilt rotten brat to her best friend that tried to hook you up with a sweet guy! No most good looking guy us aren’t going to want to be with a…. no offense a fat girl. How are we supposed to find one that likes one? Some like fat girls but it’s best to stick with your own league. Don’t be a bitch.”
She and my other friend has cute boyfriends and they’re fit and slim. So unfair.

[Anonymous]

If you think it’s unfair than make it fair by losing the weight. So what you need to do to lose the weight. Maybe she was harsh in the way she said it but at the same time she’s being honest. Most men aren’t going to find overweight women attractive. Hell you don’t even find fat men attractive but expect to not date one. What’s the saying, beggars can’t be choosers. At least your friends are trying to help you. They’re picky more in reality about the type of men that would be attracted to you. You’re just not willing to accept that reality’s sure there’s some me who like chubby chicks but they usually have a cute face, maybe some nice size tits w an ass. Stop getting in your feelings and think, is what my friends saying true. Most female friendships are never usually real, you all lie to each other about how perfect you are. It’s his loss he left you. But your friends are being realist. So make that change or settle or be single. I mean too you’re getting up there in age a lot not men don’t go after older women.

[genericname85]

well it seems you are fat so your friends match you with fat men. i don't see a problem here.

[Asker]

We’ll I think it’s totally unfair and I got called a bitch. Really? I’m allowed to have preferences in good looking, or cute guys. My two girl pals are slim, good looking and they have good looking/cute boyfriends.

[genericname85]

is it unfair tho? like i have no picture of you or the guy they are trying to set you up with. maybe it is unfair. maybe it's not. your friends are slim girls. so they have good looking boyfriends. from what you said, you aren't slim tho. so what makes you think you can have the same level of boyfriend?

[Asker]

Because I’m allow to have standards. But may not be slim or 125 or 150 but I have my pride. I just need to lose weight. I’m like 260lbs and 5’10. This guy that likes me is like 5’9 and fat too

[genericname85]

Yeah but the guys who are dating you also have standards so you won't get the slim pretty ones if you're not slim. You just have to lose weight. So does he. And 260 lb isn't just chubby. That's fat. Lose the weight first. Then you can complain about it being unfair

[Asker]

Fine I will 😭😤

[genericname85]

that's a good mentality to have :) i'm sure you'll get a hot guy eventually with that sort of mentality :D

[Ms_Facesitter]

It's not written on someone's forehead what they like. Life would be easy if that was the case. They try their best your friends, but they don't know what slim guys would be into overweight girls. They're out there, but like I said, they're not holding a neon sign that they do. Often men and women look for somebody who share the same views, values. So often slim guys will go for slim girls and the other way around.

You might find guys who are into you, but to increase chances you can work on being healthier.

[DishLady]

That's probably not 100% what's going on, HOWEVER if you want someone who is toned and in shape then you should also make the effort to be toned and in shape bc those people clearly value the way they look.

[Anonymous]

They think only fat guys will like you. They’re probably wrong, but unless you’re beautiful or really rich most super hot guys won’t like you. But you might beat the odds, especially if you know the guy on a personal level.

[Anonymous]

No. Those fat guys really don't deserve that to be done to them.😆

[Asker]

Thank you! Exactly

[Opinion Owner]

Np.👍

[DryGermanGuy]

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[In_Trance]

Yes it is