Do you think is SERIOUSLY fair that my friends only hook me up with chubby or fat guys because I’m a chubby big girl myself?

[Anonymous]

It’s so unfair. I mean I appreciate them wanting me to be happy but I always get hooked up with fat guys.

I’ve always been a big girl. Tall girl. It sucked throughout childhood. My slim friends always get asked out, I’m always there. Good looking cute guys always talk to me to get my hot, gorgeous friends.
I am 5’9, still chubby and 231lbs. Lost 20 pounds. My friends always hook me up with fat guys and I asked her why.

She told me bluntly that hot or good looking, fit me aren’t going to want to date or be with an overweight girl. There’s guys like them that do like them but I’m fat and they’re going to prefer slim or fit women. She said it makes sense that to hook me up with chubby guys because it’s better to stay in my own league.

The girl is slim and good looking and her boyfriend is fit and tall. My other petite slim friends have lean or slim boyfriends and I get hooked up with fat, chubby boys? She told me to just date my guy friend because he’s my type and he treats me better but he deserves better because I’m too stubborn and vain to give chubby boys a chance. She said a stuck up, shallow, whiny ungrateful brat to her girlfriend to hook her up with a sweet charming guy.

I’m working in weight loss because I'm sick of being the fat ugly friend.

[Anonymous]

Fair or not, I believe it's realistic.

First of all, congrats on losing 20 lbs; that's not always easy, and is an achievement worth celebrating, so well done!

Secondly, as much as it upsets you, and hurts your feelings, try to think of it this way: if you don't like getting hooked up with someone overweight, then why would a guy feel any differently? They don't want to get hooked up with an overweight person any more than you do.

They obviously put in a lot of work to make themselves attractive, and they are rewarded by getting with the attractive women. Same with the slim, attractive women being rewarded with the attractive man.

It's just basic sociology. Everybody wants the attractive partner, so two attractive people are more likely, and appropriately, going to be paired up together. Nobody is specifically trying to be unfair to you, that's just the way it goes.

[Asker]

True but I think it’s unfair! My mom had attractive partners. I know she lost weight and got fit because she got healthier. It’s just like thin girls always gettin thin or cute, good looking guys. I always get chubby guys asking me out or my friends always hook me up with fat guys. They know I like hot good looking men

[Opinion Owner]

You're right; it's not necessarily fair, and I understand that it bothers you.

Unfortunately, that's the reality of the situation, and as much as it sucks, sometimes, life is rarely fair.

You said that you were trying to lose weight, in addition to the 20 lbs you've already lost, and that's commendable. Try not to look at this as a matter of being fair, or not, and try to put a positive angle on it.

Use this as motivation to continue your weight loss journey, instead. Just think, some day soon, you could be the hot friend who gets to lick and choose between all the hot guys.

Maybe then they'll talk to your friends, in order to get to you, instead.

[Summeroflove]

So you want a guy whose fit bit won’t be fit yourself?

All in all. There is more to love then just appearances. So If you’re wanting someone whose different…. You’re going to have to make that move yourself.

[Nikki1989]

1. There are NO leagues that idiots always bring up with this kind of topic.

2. Life isn't meant to be fair, BUT it is what you make of it. Ignore what others do or say. Most people are simpletons.

[AI Opinion]

Well, darling, you've touched on a spicy cocktail of dating, friendships, and self-worth! 🎉 Your friends might have their "lovely" intentions, but their matchmaking skills are off-key! Remember, attraction isn't one-size-fits-all, and beauty comes in every size. Finding love isn't about settling but about matching with someone who sees and appreciates you for you. Don't let anyone's silly standards decide your love story. You've got the control to find someone who makes your heart sing! Pure magic, no matter your size. Keep rockin' that confidence, love. 💃😎

[Curmudgeon]

Find the guy who can sing this to you:

https://www.youtube.com/embed/GFDzQD-LR80

[AngryCarl2]

As Mick Jagger famously said "You can't always get what you want."

[Anonymous]

They're trying to set you up with a guy in your league. I don't see the problem.

[Asker]

We’ll I don’t think it’s fair. They know I’m attracted to hot or good looking guys but they always get those kind of guys

[Opinion Owner]

Yea bc those are the guys in your league. Why should they try to set you up with one of the Chads knowing it won't go anywhere?

[Asker]

Just because they’re slim or fit doesn’t mean they should hog all the fit guys. It’s always chubby guy’s asking me out.

[jahaims]

You're delusional