Is 13 too young to allow my daughter to start dating?

[missallly]

[FunkyMonkee]

I'd say 12 or 13 is about the right age. At least it was when I was that age. Quite a few of the girls in school were talking about their boyfriend's that they didn't have the year before.
However, the way kids today are with sex, it might not the BEST idea in the world!! It seems like EVERYONE EXPECTS to get laid on the first date!! That's NOT how it was when we were in our early teens!! From what I recall, the first and ONLY girl in our class to get pregnant was about 16 years old!! And this was during the free love period!!

[Zack-Bann]

If the boy is also 13 maybe it’s a good idea to get her first break up out of the way early.
That way she can have improved standards later on


But to date someone seriously, I would say 13 is way too young yeah

[Apulu_backagain]

Yeah, so my parents are strict about dating thing and I went through 2 shitty relationships because I had no adult to share those kinda problems with. If she wants to date, she will date. If you say her no, she will most probably date behind your back. It's good to be strict but when kids start hiding things from you, you won't be able to help them to deal with bad decisions. Allow her to date so she can freely tell you any dilemma she goes through.

[missallly]

i let her and she told me about her date i though it was cute her sister said she needs to slow down but all they did was hold hands 🙌

[Apulu_backagain]

Awww that's sweet. You're a good mother.

[missallly]

i though it was cute
she even asked me if i though she was ready for a kiss lol

[Apulu_backagain]

Lol it's fine, she should take her own time, no rush.

[lilBigPotato]

If she's interested in a guy she will date him. You can choose to support her and have an eye on what's going on, or prohibit it and things will happen secretly behind your back.

[missallly]

tbh i feel like she just wants to be like her sister.

[fantasticass]

Yup. You will be a grampa within a year. Put her in sports, volunteer at an animal shelter or community events. She needs a social circle of positive people with goals and ambitions., not boyfriend's.

[4ngelic]

as long as she's dating guys who are also in middle school and you make sure they can't be alone for too long, it's perfectly acceptable for her to date

[MrChinaski]

I don't see a problem as such. You probably want some structure around it e. g. they go to a movie, get picked up after... rather than 'just be back by 10''.

[Horsegirly2001]

Very young. But as long as she's dating boys her own age and like not going to bedrooms alone with a boy.

[AviatorTom]

At 13, supervised dating is fine. That's when we started allowing our daughter to date with supervision. At 15, she can date unsupervised.

[Anonymous]

I’d say yes way too young. I’m thinking maybe about 16, but even than as a dad I’m still thinking no cause it would be my daughter. But I thinking 16 is a more reasonable age of course there would be some ground rules.

[WhitneySnow]

In my opinion yes. But if you had asked me at age 13, I would’ve emphatically said no, it’s not too young.

[RavVid]

If that involves putting her on oral contraception, I would think YES.

[missallly]

you think they be active?

[RavVid]

Quite likely. Apparently a lot of young girls around that age are put on oral. I get that is being safe an all. But it would seem to telling them they should. It seems wrong to giving hormonal treatment before they are physically mature.

[Razp_Sorbet]

If you dint "allow" her she will just do it behind your back anyway which is not the experience you want her to have

[strateguy632]

Only in groups. Reference film Hannah Montana 2009.

[Nikki1989]

Probably, but I was dating at 12, so I can't judge.

[jahaims]

What is the point of dating? To find a life partner. Everything else just adds trauma and baggage. A child isn't suited for romance or sexual behavior. That is common sense.

[Xoirwinkan]

Yes, definitely. At that age they should just be starting to appreciate the other gender in that way, it's too soon.

[missallly]

im sure all they gonna do is hold hands

[Xoirwinkan]

"I'm sure" isn't good enough. Unless you are there as a chaperone it shouldn't be allowed. This reminds me of Muslim child marriage and it's sickening.

[Iron_Man]

I can’t believe you would allow her to date at that age. She is a child. There’s no way she should be dating

[AgentG111]

Mostly yes. If it's a group date or chaperone. That would be okay with me. But need location and time lines.

[Anonymous]

Depends, in some countries it's normal. Some people even let their 12 years old daughters to date, but I think it's too young before she is at least about 14-16.

[RRT_7511]

Tbh it depends on the age group she wants to date.

[queenofcardio]

Way too young

[missallly]

i think she only wants a boyfriend cause her older sister has a boyfriend

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

What do you mean with "dating" ?

[missallly]

i don’t know what dating means now a days i started dating this guy and all we do is have sex but there both in middle school so i’m sure it means hold hands?

[Mike_Hum]

This can't be real.

[missallly]

what

[Mike_Hum]

any of it.

[exitseven]

yes, way too young.

[AngryCarl3]

Dating is fine. But no sex, m'kay?

[Abbycado]

Yes.

[missallly]

ok :(

[888theGreat]

Yep and makeup

[beefcakebradybatson]

Is she a mature 13?

[MasterKS]

She can be if she is mature a bit in mind.

[missallly]

i don’t think so plus she violent

[ChicoFromThe305]

Yes.

[Jeff51]

Yes.

[missallly]

what should i tell her?

[fonduegirl]

She can do it after a couple of years. For now, it's a no

[missallly]

i’ll do that when i see her after school

[Jeff51]

Say your to young and as a parent I do not want you dating yet.

[missallly]

okay thanks

[Vegasrunner]

Obviously

[dudeinohio]

Absolutely

[oldman26]

Perfect age

[Sammy098]

Yes, it is

[Jmmmfi4]

Lol yeah