Is it healthy to hate bullies this much, or is that a problem?

[Anonymous]

I've come to really dislike them with passion. They are stupid people. It's pathetic how anyone can go home and sleep well after making either someone's school life or work life miserable. Bullies of any age suck. I really think they generally have some narcissistic traits since they clearly are enjoying what they're doing at that moment. They are so full of it and get pleasure out of making someone miserable. The person they're bullying wishes they would just stop and either treat them normally or ignored them completely.

If hypothetically speaking my son were to bullied someone in the future (hopefully not since I'll be teaching him values), while I'll always love my child, I wouldn't be upset, but extremely disappointed and sad with him. I wouldn't waste my time making him apologize to the bullied victim since it's not even going to be sincere anyway (I'm a believer than an apology not meant from the heart is worse than no apology at all) but would take him out of the school, reinforce consequences and remove privileges.

[Jersey2]

They are terrible people but don’t ;et the hate take root in you. Bullies are best dealt with by making them visible to other people, some of whom will have had run ins with them. Get it on record as to what they do.

[Asker]

Exactly. They deserved to get exposed. Rarely do they apologized sincerely and when they do it's not even for what they did to you. It's either because the victim exposed them or fought them back in a fight, they got caught and are about to either get suspended from school or fired, someone of authority or the court orders them to write apologetic letters or give an apologetic speech or they're completing a 12-step program where they're underoing a current crisis unrelated to the bullying and suddenly apologized many years later just to relieve their guilt.

[Asker]

The rare, few ones that truly apologized within a short time of the bullying, really changed and proved it with actions are the ones I'm impressed. But most bullies aren't like that. They're pure selfish and with narcissistic traits.

[Jersey2]

Don’t let their actions destroy you through hate. It is hard but don’t give that to them. Outsmart them.

[Asker]

True. They're already unworthy people that likely won't get someone of good values.

[exitseven]

No, I do not like bullies either.

[Asker]

Yeah they suck. Most of them are the same; they're never sorry and only apologize when caught and about to get in trouble, their victim fights back or they're completing a 12-step program that requires them to reconnect with people from their past. Pathetic. It's always about them.

[Anonymous]

It’s ok, they are terrible people

[Asker]

Indeed they are. They are the reason people can either commit suicide, become vengeful against their bullies (what if one of their bully victims has lots of anger issues and the bullying just triggered their last nerves) or live distrusting people for years. It generally delays social skills.

[Opinion Owner]

They secretly lack self-esteem and need to belittle others to feel better about themselves. Some of them are so desperate to attack random people on the internet, they can’t stop even when they are allegedly on a boat on a lake with their boyfriend but need to check in on here frequently throughout the day.