How can I genuinely support friends who are grieving a loss?

[MissSunshine2]

One of my guy friends recently lost his dad. Another couple of girl friends lost their dad/grandpa. I don’t know what they need. All I know is that some people get comfort from being fussed over. Others prefer being left to grieve in private.

[slatyb]

You sympathize and ask if there is anything you can do. Whatever you do, do not say something like "They are in a better place" or other religions bullshit.

[MissSunshine2]

It’s not bullshit just because you don’t believe in it, but yes, I see your point, the point being that preaching, even to religious people, is the last thing they’ll need.

[BadApple69]

For me…. Give me a hug and say nothing. That tells me that you are there to comfort me and won’t say stupid shit.

[itss_lily]

some people in these cases prefer their privacy so just ask them first and let them know you are there if they need.

[Anonymous]

I think it is best to give them space and let them know to find you if they need anything, then help more directly

[AngryCarl3]

Just let them know that you are there for them.

[NathanDavis]

ask them, how to...

[_Jenny_]

@MissSunshine2 Ask if you can help

[Iron_Man]

Take them to lunch

[PeterLegg91]

Varies doesn't it , do what you can

[i_am_back]

I wish i had such a caring friend like you 😪

[Bklynbadboy12]

Just be there for them when they need to vent