How to support a friend who is about to see some devastating news?

[DishLady]

I woke up to an engagement notice -- usually a good thing -- and realized that it was a mass message sent to everyone in my (sort of broad) social network.

The... female in question was a former client who started dating a close friend of mine. They met randomly (not my doing) and he made a big deal of "presenting" her to me as his girl. She acted like we were just meeting for the first time, which was odd.

As he grew more and more attached to her he asked me to be friends with her, show her around, etc. Something seemed a little off about her, but my policy with my guy friends is that if she makes my guy friend happy I can grin and tolerate her for a few hours when my friend needs me to.

But she broke up with him... and he was so crushed he had a full-out mental break, and stayed away from everyone until precisely last week. First people he came to were me and our little group of friends from church. It was so awesome to see him looking happy and healthy again.

Now... barely a week later... this mass message to all of us. He's going to see it for sure. :(

This happened to another friend in the past, who completely withdrew from everyone while the ex went on a dating rampage that ultimately led to the altar.

I hope this doesn't happen to my guy friend, who is so sweet and thoughtful and deserves the best. Can you all help me get some good vibes out here to him and offer some good advice to cheer him up?

[Anonymous]

its one of those things , true he might be upset but has to accept that things didn't work out and that she has moved on. doesn't really seem to be any chance of them ever dating again anyways so he might as well accept that its really over now if he had any faint hopes it wasn't.

[DishLady]

I agree, but his mental health... he JUST got better... Smh.

[Opinion Owner]

i've had similar things happen , i had a girl try and hide from me that she had meet someone else , it was like super weird and just made things worse without any real closure. sometimes its best to get answers and closure and move on.

if she is engaged to someone else he needs to realise its long over and move on

[spartan55]

Wait? Who's engaged?

[DishLady]

The girl... who dumped and crushed my friend. :(

[spartan55]

Oh... how long ago did she break up with your friend?

[DishLady]

It's been just over a year. It crushed him and he went through h**l for a full year. She really pulled a number on him.