My fiancé and I have been together for over a year known each other for five years and have been living together since January now one problem we’ve repeatedly had is my bras. I wear T-shirt bras with wires they hold the girls and as long as I get fitted every time I buy new ones they don’t fall out (my weight fluctuates due to medical issues) but my fiancé who I love and respect is saying they are the same as push-up bras and it’s only for attention. I’ve started wearing padded sports bras so he feels better but they’re uncomfortable I’ve never felt comfortable with a wireless bra leaving me to go bra less unless in public or at work because I refuse to be that uncomfortable if there isn’t guest/strangers around. I’ve suggested he comes with me to fitting and I’ll try out a few other styles to find something that works for both of us but we’ve never gone. The way I was raised is to wear under garments that are comfortable cotton, silk, etc and I do dress modestly occasionally in his or my immediate family’s presence I’ll wear a shirt with a little cleavage but not to work or with my friends. I understand his struggle with insecurity as I’ve seen some of the causes but I don’t believe my underwear that isn’t shown should be restricted. I want to help him feel more comfortable in our relationship and be comfortable in my own clothes. His main argument is I already have a good figure and wired/padded bras will make me look more defined and he doesn’t want me getting attention from other men out of fear I will be swayed or tempted by someone better. We’ve both made sacrifices that show neither of us are leaving i feel secure in the relationship but over my undergarments he’s expressed insecurity (and yes he’s admitted that it is insecurity he’s feeling). Does anyone know a good way to resolve this without dismissing either of our needs?
My fiancé doesn’t like my T-shirt bras and I need proper comfort and support, where can we find a compromise?
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