So… I met a girl year ago and I helped her find a job and come here, she was very eager to be friends with me, but I didn’t consider her to be a suitable friendship candidate so I never responded. Until this January, in January, I was recovering from a break up and needed someone to have some adventures with, I finally responded to her and we went to the trips together. Since January, she has been my responsibility.
And I am just a year older than her.
She quit her job in January as soon as she saw what a cool city I lived in. However, his boss loves her so she managed to maintain her visa without any issues. So she came to me and has been staying with me for 3 months.
I am a very self-sufficient person, if I see no romantic potential with a man, I don’t accept his gifts, nor his offers and nor I waste my time talking with him.
What I’ve noticed though is that she mostly has make friends, most of them rich and some of them married.
She’s a nice girl though and I tried to help her and support her, but as I see she has lots of people who support her and she still stays with me.
I, on the other hand, don’t accept help from anyone, and I feel like I am one of many people who help her.
She’s been living like this since 17, always someone helping her and she didn’t even have to work.
Today, I went out from shower and we shared each other secrets, and she doesn’t seem to hide things from me, however, today I heard she was talking with a married man, who’s a millionaire and that man was saying something, when she saw I cane out she quickly hung up. I was surprised. I know this man is married and I am in no position to judge, it’s just I feel I am her sugar mama.
I told her she needs to get her own place and she started trying, but I think her trying mainly means her getting in touch with older married man. I don’t feel like our personalities match.
I am not used to be the one who’s always giving and giving, and in our friendship I feel like I am the one giving and she has nothing to contribute to our friendship, at least in this situation when I can’t even be alone at my own apartment
So, I am not against her living her life the way she wants, but I think I am in no position to help someone who obviously doesn’t need my help.