Do you try to see positive even when life throws you pain?

Question

Ngl, this past week has been the toughest and the most painful I’ve ever experienced in my life.

I broke my leg in 2 places, due to silly competition I was playing in high boots that were totally unsuitable for competition.

Due to my silliness I experienced awful pain and fear.

I also underwent a major surgery, that put titanium in my leg and now I have to go through long 4 months of rehabilitation and hopefully the only thing I’ll worry about will be the scar - 6 months later. I do hope so.

But… Now, what I feel grateful about is that during this time of hardship I received the support of my family, friends and strangers, some “friends” left me alone. I am also grateful about that as I saw they only wanted friendship with me in my good and happy days.

Some people who I might have not been friends with in the past, showed me so much support and humanity that it left me in tears.

My boss’s brother has been with me through it all in the hospital , he’d come every morning at 05:00 and would leave every evening at 07:00. He took care of me so well.

My company covered all the charges of hospital and they even hired a caretaker for me who’ll live with me for a month, so that I can have someone to help me with housework, cooking and all, and I won’t have to put any pressure on my leg, so it can heal soon and well.

I don’t know what will happen in 2-3 months, I can only hope for the best.

But so far, this experience taught me a lot…

And in a way, probably made me stronger, because I was feeling so lonely and so powerless, still I had to be my own hero.

I also had some nice fun experiences, from the emergency doctors who were very cute to me, one even asked my wechat, to the surgeons who were also very nice, to the delivery guy who was bringing me food at hospital, and telling me that our meeting was a fate and that he can help me with anything I need, to a stranger man who told me, I am his sister and helped me a lot.

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5 mo

It’s kind of a pleasure to know, even in my worst shape, and in worst pain I’ve experienced I’ve still managed to cause positive feelings in people.

Now it’s time to start a long rehabilitation and hopefully it will go great. I’ll never wear those heavy boots again.

And I’ll never compete so hard to have my bone broken again haha

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5 mo

I need to mention @love_conquers_lust who created a very encouraging AI picture for me - of a happy girl running in the field. It was very encouraging to see it on the day of my surgery and imagine that it will be me 6 months later. Thank you. 😊

dynamicyandere · Accepted Answer

I’m glad to hear that you’ve been surrounded by a lot of love and support. 🙂

As for your question, yes, always.

It’s the only way to truly live.

Perspective is powerful and with a critical and pessimistic mindset, there are absolutely endless things that one can complain about — since the world is not perfect and life is not fair.

But, thinking that way leads either to nowhere or to an even worse condition. It’s an infinite black hole of despair and an eternal source of negativity.

So, what’s the opposite of that? Practicing gratitude and thinking about everything that we can still be grateful for. Being hopeful and positive.

In the worst case scenario, nothing will change. But, in most cases things do change, and for the better.

So many good things have happened in my life thanks to me having a positive mindset — to see the silver-lining of everything.

It’s how one can turn failures into lessons, challenges into opportunities, and hardships into growth.

It’s choosing to be strong in the face of life’s storms, instead of succumbing to life’s ability to crush us.

There are those who are positive only because they do not know the negative. Those people may be naive and may quickly adopt a negative mindset once trouble comes their way.

But then there are those who see all the ugliness and darkness — yet still, choose to press on with positivity and hope — to overcome challenges instead of surrendering to despair. Those people demonstrate true strength of mind and character.

I’m glad that you’re staying strong throughout this. It’s not easy to focus on the good when going through life’s storms.

I’m happy that you have great support around you as well and that you’re going through this recovery with a positive mindset and a strong heart.

Kaneki05 · Accepted Answer

I've had a broken jaw thanks to an assault, and ya know what? Didn't hurt much at all I was a champ lol.
But I've recently have a circumcision due to phimosis and ya know what? I would take a broken jaw anyday over that.
It's not as such it hurts extremely but it hurts because of how you can't keep it from not touching anything and well you don't want to know what happens when it naturally does what it does lol. But my broken jaw didn't have to touch anything and I could eat from a straw etc. And due to little wired things they put in your mouth I could speak without it much moving.

So I can't speak to a broken leg but yeah I think that would be a pain to deal with because it's always touching or standing doing something and then you having surgery with it as well not just a normal broken healing. It really depends where the break is I guess.

Now I am thinking my pain ain't that bad lol. Well normally I just think everything will be fine but since it's concerning my area down there, I do get a bit nervous about it healing properly.

Yeah that is a long time to recover but a good way to think of is you should be be all better sooner in the next year than later.

7Phoenix7 · Accepted Answer

I'm sorry you're going through tough times. I hope you're able to continue to see the positive... and continue to find light during the dark moments. I was in a very dark place for kind of a long time. Lost friends too... came out on the other side, you will too 🩷

Unycorn · Accepted Answer

I try to focus on facts - only facts - and to make the here and now better. Future and past are not now. Build today for your future life

Sonorous · Answer

I see the utility of it & I do try. But I'm not sure that I'm good at it. I tend to be cynical.

Bloodfeast · Answer

I had an injury and I had to rehab it myself. I learned a ton about the human body. Physical therapy. Muscles. Tendons. Nerves. How the body works. How to fix back pain and shoulder pain. How to build a stable body. And much much more.

One book that is excellent is called "back mechanic" by a famous physical therapist Stuart McGill. He has all the accolades one could ever want.

I also read other books. It was nice to learn so much. If I hadn't gotten injured I would have never known this stuff.

And now i have a ton of information that will help my longevity and health. I can now age and get old and I will have understanding and preventative care and maintenance on my body.

It's like a blessing in disguise to get injured the way I did.

But it sucked at the time and totally fucked me up and fucked up my workouts as I had to basically stop working out and I felt like. i was fucked for life.

Peter_Penetrator · Answer

Always.

What l find entertaining is when someone can see that as a person; l view my glass half full.

When they try pissing in it; l just smile and treat them with kindness. I never loose my shit with them.

Nothing is more satisfying to me as watching a narcissist attempting to drag me down with them. In their futile efforts; l disappoint.

I win over stress with humor. Only when l am alone; l have time to think things through and think of ways to make lemonade. In the long run, things have their way of working out. Patience is a virtue.

molonski2 · Answer

So very sorry you had to go though such an ordeal , and it shows how very easily life can change quickly.

I do really like to see the positive side , wherever its possible to do so , sometimes that's difficult , but yes you learn from everything , no doubt.

Fireguy17 · Answer

Pain is short lived and soon forgotten about.
I obliterated my rotator cuff on my shoulder at a fire scene, I was off for 6 months, and on light duty for about 3 more months.
I remember it hurt like an SOB but other than a little constant reminder with my shoulder, I really don't remember how bad it hurt at the time.
Same when I had my knee replaced, now it is the best it has ever been, and I can remember the rehab hurt a lot, but now it's just fine.
Your body is programed to forget about the pain over time, you can remember it hurt but that is it.
It sucks that you have to go through this, it's good that you have some help.
Over time it may be a bad memory, but you will get through it, you made it this far.
You may have some rehab, that might hurt.
It is a marathon, look at the big picture and the end result, which will be being back to normal and hopefully pain free.

exitseven · Answer

Holy crap. Sorry you are dealing with this. It sounds like a massive problem. I had a total hip replacement a couple of years ago. The first few weeks were tough but after that I was able to go back to work and soon after that I was doing most of the things i was doing before, You will get a little better every day and will soon make a full recovery. Don't try and rush this. Your body works on it;s own timetable.

DJB72 · Answer

There's always something positive. It sounds like you're going through a difficult time but it will pass.

Trust me, this will just be a memory before you know it. You're going to be able to look back and see hope, strength, love and new possibilities opening up for you.

There's always hope.

lightbulb27 · Answer

my first date with wife she did a bad jump and broke her leg bad, took two years to heal. yes, there's usually something positive can take out of it.

You are fortunate, some people have noone. Good to be thankful.

Wishing you the best healing up better than before.

Lesson learned... fooling around, is dangerous. Seen that too many times.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

A good person will always see the positive in many things, regardless of what life Throws at them. We all have moments where we are completely negative, but to remain so only proves that you’re not a good person at all or positive on that note.

love_conquers_lust · Answer

“Sing like no one is listening.
Love like you’ve never been hurt.
Dance like nobody’s watching,
and live like it’s heaven on earth.”

Now you have a battle scar. It will make you look tough. Tough Femme. It shows character. I have them all over my hands.

You look good.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

While, I had a fairly chill life, it was also kinda rough, so as a coping mechanism the family and I learned to joke about the crappy things that happen to us..

glennos89 · Answer

Good luck with your leg, hopefully you will recover without any lasting discomfort. The scar probably won't go away but that isn't a problem. A scar on your leg doesn't effect your beauty so I wouldn't worry about it if I where you

msc545 · Answer

I'm very glad to hear you were doing better. I was worried about you.

NathanDavis · Answer

that is how, and why I am still here... gladly, as well...

Dnice1 · Answer

Yes I tend to think on the brighter side of things when things get rough. It can be hard sometimes but I just keep going and not let it get me down.

Still-alive · Answer

Yes i try to make an effort to do that. Gotta maintain your spirits and try to not give in to despair.

Alex8736 · Answer

Always remember that tough times don't last but the tough do

Andres77 · Answer

Staying positive regardless…that’s the goal. And it’s worked wonders lately.

Anonymous · Answer

Nope. I'm always in some form of pain, no use seeing positive things when it simply isn't there

HouseMoat · Answer

I try to be realistic, not necessarily positive or negative

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