Can you truly be close friends with the opposite gender?

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OneViewpoint · Accepted Answer

Nah, if it's possible it's rare. Two asexual people. Two unattractive people. If it's two reasonably attractive single people, one or the other is gonna catch feelings sooner or later. And the fuse it lit. Start counting down to the end. They like each other because they share some of the same values and they enjoy each other's company. It would be weird if neither ever caught feelings. And being rejected when the other 'sets boundaries" pretty much ends it. Time to move on.

Plus as @Mark_Est said, women are comfortable using men. They get something of value from the friendship. Home repairs, car repairs, moving muscle for apartment swaps or furniture rearranging, painting indoors or the exterior, etc. They'll keep guys around for free labor, LOL. What does a guy get from a female friend that he can't get from his male buddies or a restaurant?

And speaking of boundaries, try setting financial boundaries with a female friend from day one. Split the restaurant bills and the bar tabs and the movie tickets. Say you're busy for her 3rd apartment move in 3 years and suddenly she's not so available to hang out. Oops, her reality is showing! 🤫 She's done the math and you're not the sort of friend she's looking for. She wants the sort of friend who never utters the word NO! Low investment with high returns. That's not a guy with boundaries.

Chazmatazz269 · Accepted Answer

It’s possible but very rare. Neither can have a physical attraction or any desire for more than platonic friendship, ever. The hardest part is maintaining that mindset. Contrary to popular belief, personality means more to both sexes than most people like to admit. The more you appreciate a person’s character and spirit, the less physical attraction matters over the long term. Especially after a few heart breaks chasing what we want, finding what we need has been right here all along can have a crucial impact on the friendship. It’s almost certain doom if it’s one-sided.

thegreenyogi · Accepted Answer

Depends on the two people involved. And it also depends how much friendship is valued. There are many layers to friendship and it is especially the case of friendship between man and woman which makes it even more valuable. But in order for it to work there must be trust and I think a certain level of chemistry amd wanting the same things. Dialogue is important and clear boundaries are important.

Masie · Accepted Answer

I can. I have a few really good guy friends at school that I am close with. I also have no interest in dating anyone and they are aware of that. Doesn't bother them and doesn't bother me.

Mark_Est · Answer

No, men and women can't be friends and that is normal. It is normal to develop feelings for somebody of the opposite gender that you teally like spending time with it.

If you hate them or use them then sure, but then are you really friends. And by the way, most women use dudes, that is why they "can" be. While men actually like their friends for who they are.

TonyMetal___1986 · Answer

I can, even though sometimes bad thoughts comes to my mind, as much as i have women talking to me and acting comfortable around me 😄

Actually it makes me laugh, when i see a guy begging for a woman while i'm running away from them, so yes i have set some women for some guys, even here and they know who they are 🤣🤣

Twalli · Answer

Yes. It largely depends on how you make friends though. All of my friends share similar interests. That's why we're friends. We like doing the same things, so we sometimes do them together. I don't really care if they're a guy or a girl. If we like the same thing, we do it together. My fiancée doesn't like football, video games, or anime. I do. I try to avoid watching football, playing video games, or watching anime when she's here.

RedInnocent69 · Answer

I like to think so, but that doesn’t mean there isn’t any sexual tension. I’ve thought sexually about every female friend, a few more than others that I’d do in a heartbeat in a different life. I would never in this one, but it’s why we’re close friends, because we like each other…

Kunxter · Answer

Yes, I have many female friends and two very close female ones whom I can tell anything and vice versa. Some people don't understand and still don't believe we are just good friends but that's their problem 😄

Finchie40 · Answer

Yes , I have girl friends’ that I just consider friends’ that i don’t want to make more than just friends’ they are just buddies to me , like my male buddies , that i hang out with on occasion.

browsingthroughthe · Answer

@i_am_back Suddenly 30 / 13 Going on 30 is what Mark Ruffalo owes his career to 📽️🎥 what a film 🙏🏻 And can they be? Hmm - not without sexual tension, unless unattractive

RavVid · Answer

Yes you can but you have to be prepared to step back they find a romantic partner. Male-Female friends tend to ersatz partnerships in my experience.

EzraIsShy76028 · Answer

I mean yeah? Why not? I don't really bond with people over their gender anyway. I don't see why it should even matter.

exitseven · Answer

I had a few female friends when I was younger. One really was my best friend for a while. We could talk about anything with each other.

loveyouoak · Answer

Of course, why not. A male friend is better than a female friend; at least he's not jealous.

jshm2 · Answer

Sure. What's occasional anal, between close friends, after all?

LiamS95 · Answer

Yes I have been very close platonic friends with some close female friends I've known for years or in at least one case kmown most of my life.

InThe6ix · Answer

I think it's pretty uncommon especially a friendship where it's just that... and neither person have feelings or are attracted to the other.  But yes it believe it can happen. Again just rare.

kaucky1 · Answer

Hell yeah I get along with girls hermaphrodites and transvestites, I got no reason to argue or treat them badly

Xoirwinkan · Answer

Yeah probably, if both are already romantically involved with someone else

byourit · Answer

Yes, but it depends less on gender and more on boundaries, attraction, expectations, and emotional compatibility.

Siajanua2027 · Answer

Yes, until she bends over in front of him while wearing a short mini

RachyRach · Answer

It takes a lot of work but it's possible

Humbertleinad · Answer

Emotions always kicks in with time

HellGeist · Answer

Only if there's no attraction.

MrChinaski · Answer

Of course. And you get to have sex too.

FrodoSkywalker007 · Answer

Do you enjoy propaganda

ThisSiteSux · Answer

All of my best friends are girls

SaoirseS · Answer

Of course.

NathanDavis · Answer

I am

melnc · Answer

I don't think so

Anonymous · Answer

*opposite sex

KostasKouvalis · Answer

Of course

Brady · Answer

yes.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Yes.

Khyaab25 · Answer

yes you can

Pterodon · Answer

Yes you can

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