Is it normal parenting to tell a child she’s the “prettiest” and will outshine others?

[Anonymous]

My sister told my niece she's pretty or the prettiest in town and someday she will beat her neighbors kid with beauty and she will be a beauty queen lmao I just heard it but I think its narcissist

[CuriousTenya]

Completely normal. And if someone doesn't take it to far, it's not detrimental either. You want to give a kid a confidence boost. Later, at a teenage age, they will seek confirmation from the outside anyways, so the risk that they'll end up legitimately believing they are the prettiest is negligible (family can't do it on their own, their peers would need to agree).

by the way, normal, and right are two different things. If something is common it's always normal. But here it is also not wrong.

[Anonymous]

Narcissist is a psychiatric diagnosis, a long way from a girl telling someone she's pretty. If she's pretty, people will notice, if not, they'll notice that also and she won't get as much attention.

[DryGermanGuy]

How about encouraging her of achieving something by work and effort?

[EmmaMary]

I'm already telling our four year old daughter this... Just the same as my mother told me.

[tiredpanda]

Nope. That’s a why to raise a narcissist and cause other problems to that kid.

[AngryCarl3]

That kid is going to get an unpleasant dose of reality.

[Anonymous]

It’s fine it’s normal to hype your family members

[Asker]

Except my sister is narcissist behind close doors. n

[Opinion Owner]

It’s normal to say your child is the most beautiful

[Opinion Owner]

Infact all close members must hype their niece up

[Opinion Owner]

If your mom thought u are ugly am sorry , maybe u are

[Asker]

The same sister who told me I am not good enough and no one will ever love me and always compare me to my friends of how my friend is more famous than me and just me living in the shadow than her and that I look fat. she's not nice at all.

[Asker]

Thats rude..

[Opinion Owner]

She doesn’t sound like your sister.

[Opinion Owner]

Sounds like a jealous neighbour

[Asker]

Actually I told you she is not nice person she is mean to me and she thinks she's better than anyone because she married a well off guy. If you meet my niece she's mean af too. I have emotional trauma because of my sister. She always call me stupid or dumb by the way she's is 21 years older than me she should know better but she chose to still treat me like shit. Some people are just evil she should be glad because she has it all she is richer than me , has nice house everything but still mean. I don't know why she's jealous I am nothing compared to her except Im just younger. Youngest by the way

[7Phoenix7]

Not normal….

[Asker]

Why?

[Elektra96]

She is building up her confidence.