How do I handle jealous church wives being cold toward me?

[Anonymous]

I'm over here, single af, and some wives are so mean if I am friendly with their husbands. at church, where we are supposed to all be friends. It sux. I don't flirt with them at all. Some wives are cool, some aren't

it's so weird. I even have one couple, the wife won't speak. Turns her head if someone she is with says hi to me. I used to speak to her husband sometimes, only asking about her if she was sick. Now he acts like the cat got his tongue. But I do catch him sneaking looks at me. I sorta get it, but I did nothing but look a little cute. She's cute too.

Another couple me and the wife were cool. We used to text and that gradually went away when she saw how her husband paid me so much attention at a gathering, but he hadn't been around me in years. No she won't even speak.

I don't know. It sux.

[lightbulb27]

Get your own boyfriend or husband. You can spend time with the women only. Those people are in a different place

It does, but it's reality. At my big church there were multiple cases of affairs including a pastor and someone he counseled. They did well standing on stage and calling them out by name, firing the one... but supporting the emotional healing and change.

I'm sorry, but saved does not mean faultless and when a violation does occur, it wrecks havoc. In general, you should be friendly with the wives and cordial to the man at most. That's all you get.

If you are better off being friends with guys, I get that, I was better being friends with women.

As soon as had a girlfriend, things changed.

[Asker]

I do mostly talk to other women there. I am just cordial with the husband. Some are on door duty so I was just being nice on my way out. I never sought them out.
I would get my own but it hasn't happened. I Seem to attack more guys that aren't my religion. I am what I am, so I have resolved I will have to have someone the same religion, but I am shy and odd at church I seem to get more attention from married men. I don't relish in it. There aren't many single guys there, none I'm interested in anyways.

[lightbulb27]

You'll have to go out to other places to find someone and that means areas you normally wouldn't go, and always be "on your game" for an opportunity when it strikes. Seems to happen when it isn't forced, not intentional. I was in a mostly married church long ago, in another galaxy, and it was clear no options there, so I went to other places. It's understandable.
You have to decide what you will accept and can handle.

Am married now. I bombed out several times with christian gals, not their fault, just realities of the time.

I generally drew to married women more, I wasn't a threat to them, it just felt safer to me. Most singles I didn't like. I didn't do well in married men's groups either...

[slatyb]

Find a church with better people, if you can. Maybe find a town with better people.

[DonaldDarko]

I don't know. I'm not religious at all but if I'm understanding right church is for sinners. I guess it makes sense they're like that.

[Asker]

We'll we are all sinners. These ones should be above all of that because what we are taught at church and they are long time members etc. They should have learned more.

[DonaldDarko]

I've never read much on what happenes after the sinner confesses his sins and is forgiven. I'm guessing he already improved or he wouldn't have a change of heart on the first place. I'm basing my observation on the usual Christian confessing his sinful nature and verses about Jesus eating with tax collecters and forgiving an adulterous woman about to be stoned to death etc. I don't really know the minuta of church doctrine after the fact.

[Iron_Man]

They must be jealous of you. You must be very good looking

[Asker]

I don't know, but I get their guys attention too and they don't like it. I don't like it either for the most part. One especially I didn't mention, I quit talking to him at all because how his wife acted. I'm around his daughters age. But the wife acts like something is up when we were just buddies.

[Iron_Man]

They are all very jealous of you. Maybe you should go to a church where they have some people around your age that are single.

[Asker]

That would be nice.

[Iron_Man]

Yes, you’ll have your pick of the litter at the next church instead of jealous wives

[In_Trance]

Have you tried shutting the fuck up and not talking to their husbands?

[Asker]

Hahaha. Go suck and egg. I am not the problem. You shut up!