Girls would you still like your boyfriend if he acts like this with your family?

[Anonymous]

So my older sister 3 years ago deported her husband back to Mexico & got a new boyfriend. So the first thing my family hated about him was on a day of a birthday party of my youngest niece he went up to my sister & told her he didn't want my other sister boyfriend in his house my mom heard got pissed off & said if you kick him out I'm leaving too I really don't know why he acted like that but it had to do something when they're where in Utah. When my grandma was at the hospital for falling & busting her head open he never went to visit. When they do birthday parties and my family comes he usually spends his time in his room but when he has his son coming over he is always out there. He says he hates the ghetto and most of my family come from ghetto places including me & my mom. He has a well paying job and acts like he is very rich, once my sister told him we only got this bread my mom brought & he said I got my own money my own car to go get my own food! I've also noticed when my mom makes something he never touches it, when my sister was with his old boyfriend she would always go over and stay at our house for hours & even sleep over but with him they stay for a few minutes and they leave and my sister hasn't slept over with us since he got with him. He acts more American then Hispanic and he seems embarrassed to speak Spanish once my niece told him what's your ethnic background he said American! He never says hi or how was your day to my mom pretty much he ain't that talkative with my mom. My mom two weeks ago came back from Fresno he passed by her & didn't even said hi or how did it go. When we moved in with them they never invite us anywhere they go when they bring something they don't even tell us if we want some? He once told my other sister I don't want you or that little kid in my house do you understand? He told her that because the little kid punched my little niece! He has told my family off One of my cousins told him can you rent me the garage and he turned around & told him "What? hell no!" He told one of my girls cousin I don't like you he didn't laugh he looked serious. He laughed at one of my aunts for trying to see what we where looking at. On new years when my family memebers left and they came back because they forgot something he said sh*t they're back! I don't know how my sister can be with a guy like this.

Girls would you be able to be with a guy like this who changes you and treats your family like sh*t because most of my family come from the ghetto? I'm being really honest he really hates the ghetto I've heard him say it & he shows it a lot my family does live in ghetto places but we ain't troublemakers or drug addicts except my other sister & he really hates her guts!

[kotek100]

I think it's complicated situation. I don't understand why he is with your sister if obviously everything disgust him there, her home, her family, background. I think you should first talk to your sister very serious about this relationship, he seems to be violent ask your sister if she's really happy with him, if she loves him and how he treats her. I would start with that.

[Asker]

He is violent he was in the Army during the Vietnam war. He treats her mental daughter like crap he slaps her head,drags her around & rips her shirts he also called one of my niece bitch & my sister didn't do anything. But when my other sister does something like yell at my mom he gets mad & tells my other sister to get her out of the house. I just don't understand I think my sister is already brainwashed by him.

[HowsTheWeather]

i'd tell him that I don't like the way he is treating my family and if ever my family would disrespect my boyfriend I'll not tolerate them too.

[HowsTheWeather]

thanks for BA! ^-^

[Asker]

Your welcome

[eveline]

Dumped him family he ain't. Family material