I hate body modifications but they're becoming so common today. Do I need to just adapt to find a woman?

[Anonymous]

I absolutely HATE body modifications such as facial/body piercings, tattoos, and even stuff as small as hair dye jobs or hitting the tanning booth. When girls do these things it just totally turns me off because I think it's ugly, it's trashy, and it's just disgusting. But they're all becoming so common nowadays it seems like it's impossible to find a girl who doesn't do these things. Do I need to adapt my standards and try to force myself to like these things that are major turnoffs to me if I am to find a woman in the modern world?

[Anonymous]

Either adapt or date one of those really conservative Christian/religious girls because most girls do it. You would be hard pressed to find a girl that doesn't dye/highlight/straighten her hair, wear makeup, or tan or do any of those above. Do you also have a problem with them waxing their eyebrows and other body hair? Or grooming? What about body modifications is so disgusting to you? Most women are going to try to do things that make them look better that's just the way it is. Lemme guess you're one of those guys who wants a girl to have naturally perfect flawless skin and beautiful hair without having to use anything to do it, you want her to wake up and be naturally gorgeous? Well lemme tell you that is pretty unrealistic and your chances of finding girls like that to choose from aren't that high. :/

Most girls who don't do any type of body modifications (not talking about piercings, tattoos, ear stretching, that type of stuff) at all, are usually...um...not the most attractive girls. They usually have a boring humdrum look and blend in and don't stand out among the more attractive girls. So if you really hate "body modifications" hopefully you prefer these kind of girls, and you weren't fantasizing about a gorgeous hot girl because most of them do "body modifications" to some degree.

Most people who do dye their hair don't even do it from low self esteem if that's what you're going for. Some people like to try different looks and express themselves through makeup/hair. But if you don't like it that's your opinion but most girls do it in some form. So either get over it or you'll be severely limiting your dating options.

[Asker]

There's a difference between grooming/maintenance and modifications. I guess to me it implies negative things about their personality.

[Opinion Owner]

I just saw this advertisement on here called geek2geek or (gk2gk). it had a picture of this plain looking girl with glasses that didn't appear to have any body modifications like makeup or hair dye. maybe you should try girls like that..

but you are stereotyping. you can't tell anything about someone's personality just because they choose to dye their hair from chestnut brown to auburn that's bullsh*t

[llamapolice]

Ok, so obviously the Anon two comments down took offense to your question. * someone call the waambulance*

I don't think you should lower your standards because you prefer a girl that is hard to come by.

I think you have every right to have standards, from my perspective its more complimenting.

I'm a girl, obviously, and the only make up I wear is mascara, and that's only on a special day.

I agree with you about body tanning, and hair dying and stuff. :) <- never done that stuff in my life..

Chances are there ARE more girls than you think out there that do not do that stuff. You are probably just looking at the wrong kind of girls, i.e your friends are into girls like that, but your not feelin it, yet it may not be so easy NOT to notice them

To the Anon:

Just because a girl does not wear makeup and tan and dye their hair or whatever sh*t that you do that obviously caused you to become offended, it DOES NOT mean their ugly, fat or whatever.

9 times out of 10 those girls are full of confidence, though they may not boast, that or they have better things to concentrate on.

[darcierae]

First, I don't think your wrong- but your statement is biased. Most girls do these things because they are influenced by what the media convinces them looks good, or bullying. For example, I dyed my hair because a group of guys told me my natural hair color was gross (dusty brown.).

You shouldn't call a girl trashy because she has a belly button piercing, or a tattoo for example. There is usually a reason why they have this body modification. When my friends father died, she got a tattoo of a quote from him that she held dear to her. Would you call her trashy?

I have to agree with you on the piercings. A lot of people go overboard with them, and it does sometimes look trashy. But I don't think you should be so biased with your opinion. Does that mean you can't find a girl that won't have any of these? No. There are plenty out there who share your views. But be a little more open minded, cause what if someday you fall in love with a girl who then dyes her hair or gets a tattoo? Would you suddenly hate her?

[Asker]

I'm not saying the girl is trashy by default for having those things, just that that's how it LOOKS to me.

[G-Daz]

In a lot of ways I feel the same way as you do, I mean its as though id dismiss someone who did have these modifications, its just that id prefer neither of them I like natural women the best :P. I don't really get the attraction that comes from piercings, its likely a form of bling you could probably say haha, but to an extent it seems that the popularity is due to trends. The 1970's, 80's and 90's all had different interpretations of what they considered attractive that they tried to feed women and many of which followed the images being portrayed, its likely similar today in the form of many of the body modifications you listed. I'm sure the amount of women that are interested in many of the changes to their body would change if media impressions begin to change but for the time being I don't see it...

I don't like make up on women so much, neither do I like tattoos or piercings and tanning booths, if they wanted to tan it would be better if they tanned naturally however, all of this despite being a bit of a turn off wouldn't exactly mean id dissmiss someone just because of it. I could look past it if it was the right girl and I think you should to, I think you might need to be a little more leniant though, at least try to accept a few changes because otherwise its going to be pretty hard.

[sinful1620]

It's also more common for women to act like sluts (not meaning they're comfortable with their sexuality, but meaning they go to clubs and pick up another guy to f*** every weekend).

I don't blame you for being torn on this, because I hate social constructions so I don't follow trends or fashion or any of the other things people slavishly change about their person to fit in. This leaves me "unattractive" because I'm not the hipster girls our age jump on top of. But honestly, if I had to choose between being who I want to be alone, and being fake to score chicks... I'd rather be alone.

[missymoo]

So when guys go out to pick up their not a slut? Pretty sure its calles being a man whore. Its also as disgusting, but ALL men are man whores these days so women kinda have to put up with it, they can't be fussy like you are. But at least their are some decent women still around, you'd have to search every inch of the globe to find a guy that doesn't make decisions based on what his penis wants.

[Asker]

ALL men are man whores? Really, and where's your proof?

[sinful1620]

The view that all men are like dogs begging for sex is a pathetic stereotype perpetuated by sexual dynamics that give women all power in sexual relations. And a guy who goes out and f***s a different woman every weekend is not some demigod as women like to claim, he's a player, and everyone hates a player.javascript:SlideIt('AddComment1096046');

[missymoo]

My proof is the fact that if there's one thing a guy will move mountains for, its sex. If they are picking between two women, they will pick the one they are most sexually attracted too. If there's one thing a man will ruin a healthy relationship/friendship for, its sex. When I said all men I was overexaggerating, but I still stand by the fact that men a more slutty then women.

[missymoo]

So why aren't women who go out and f*** every weekend called players? if women are sluts for doing it, men are sluts too. there should be no double standard about it.

[sinful1620]

So what... your argument is that terminology somehow favors men? Fine, we'll call players "sluts" then. And when arguing that it's a STEREOTYPE that men are slaves for sex, saying "well we all know all men are slaves for sex" doesn't work. If it did, I could just say "well the fact is men who have sex are awesome and women who have sex are sluts".

It sounds like you're a typical feminist who doesn't get how sexist you are.

[Anonymous]

I don't have any tattoos or peircings (not even my ears). Its not that I wouldn't like them, I just don't think they'd suit me, so their are some girls out there who don't do that. hair dye on the other hand I think your gonna have trouble finding a girl who doesn't have some form of dye. Stop being so fussy, fair enough tattoos and peircings you don't like, but hair dye?! You wouldn't even notice tht a chick dyed her hair half the time if she didn't tell you. Your picky to the point where you sound impossible to please, I can't imgine what you'd be like in other aspects of your life.

[Asker]

Pretty laid back and easygoing actually...

[moaterboat]

To me hair dye is a bigger issue than piercings or tattoos specifically because half the time you can't notice. When you see tattoos or piercings it is obvious that they aren't natural, but dying hair is almost like disguising yourself because it isn't obvious. I would go so far as to call it dishonest when it isn't obvious that it is dyed. It is like a girl stuffing her bra, or a guy shoving a sock down his pants. Why do women do it? What is wrong with who they really are?

[Opinion Owner]

Then why do guys put gel in their hair? Wax their chests? Take steroids or work out to bulk up? Why do they use penis pumps, etc.? Noone is happy with how they look, its not just girls. Girls just don't get all picky with guys who do that because they don't care WHAT you do to make yourself feel good, they just accept that its what you do.

[darcierae]

@moaterboat

How is dying your hair dishonest? Dying your hair can be a form of expression, or maybe you just don't like your natural color, or in my case- to look different from my sisters who look almost EXACTLY like me. I don't think dying hair has some big significance.

[starryanna]

I wonder if your dislike for 'body mods' extend as far as even disliking makeup, plucking eyebrows, shaving legs, etc. All of which are pretty unnatural in my opinion.

Unfortunatly for us women there is a lot of pressure to look good, young, tanned, etc, something which guys really are not expected to do. If you grow a beard it's considered normal, if I let my armpit hair grow wild... it's considered disgusting and mannish.

Of course if people are excessive with their mahogany tan and peroxide hair, then yeah, it is a little trashy.. but in moderation it makes women confident, happy and expressive individuals.

And you probably walk past hundreds of versions of your 'ideal' girl every week, unfortunately she's so boring you probably don't notice.

[Asker]

I don't like makeup but in moderation it's not bad. There's a difference though between maintenance and modifications.

As per your final line, I only wish I did... I see them out and about but they're not all that common.

[sinful1620]

Yeah but if a guy has a massive ragged bushy beard, it's wholly unattractive as well. I agree with your statements regarding heavy makeup being comparable to piercings and tattoos, but comparing hygiene to glamor accessory seems obtuse to me.

[Dan2287]

Well, firstly I am similar to you - I prefer a natural looking woman with no makeup, dye, piercings, fake tan etc. Nothing beats looking into the eyes of a beautiful looking woman who doesn't need any of that to be physically beautiful. Maybe its because they are few and far between nowadays.

Your standards are your standards. You shouldn't 'force' yourself to find them attractive, but rather maybe keep an open mind, get to know some of these women and find out what they are like. Maybe start with women that only have 1 of those 'body modifications'. From there it might not bother you or turn you off as much

[thisislifebaby]

so many girls do this because so many guys fine it extremely attractive, small thing like colouring hair it can look very nice, and to be honest I'm sure you have found a girl attractive that has dyed her hair or even used a tanning bed, girls can do all these things and not look like it and I think its a bit rough to rule out being with a girl that does any of those things even if they can look natural.

[tex151]

There are chicks out there that have no body modifications, tats, or even tan. My girlfriend doesn't have any of those and she's hot as hell, and in fact I can't recall one chick that I have dated that had any tats, piercings except ears, or tanned. I only date classy women

[peace-love-couture]

Do women ever catch a break?

Megan Fox and Angelina Jolie have tattoos,wear tons of make-up and no one seemed to be complaining when they voted Megan as sexiest/hottest woman on earth.

Call me later,after you talk to Maxim,Penthouse and Playboy.

[Asker]

Those magazines voted them as being hot. Those magazines aren't me and don't reflect my opinions.

[peace-love-couture]

Mhmm,I'm sure

[Asker]

Think what you will. Personally I'll take the "girl-next-door" over MF or AJ any day of the week.

[peace-love-couture]

I notice guys say that,but....when I step out of the realm of GaG,actions say otherwise...just saying.I'm not judging guys for thinking that way,I could care less.I just think it's funny the same people who put pressure on females to act a certain way or look a certain way are all of a sudden trying to be pc and are now complaining about females not living up to yet another standard

[moaterboat]

I actually agree with you to some extent. Facial piercings are just weird, and most tattoos are dumb, unless they have some sort of deep meaning. The hair dye is what really gets me. The fact that so many women dye their hair makes me wonder if any of them are actually happy with who they really are.

[darcierae]

I agree with you about everything, except the hair dye. Women don't dye their hair because they're insecure, most of the time it's because they are bored with their own hair color- or they look nicer with a different color of hair.

[Anonymous]

no way! you may need to move to the mountains but no definitely do not lower your standards to find a girl because if you have to force yourself to like a girl that's pointless because in your heart (bear with me) you won't truly like her you'll just be finding things wrong with her

[sunwolf94]

lots of girls don't. I don't. I only have my ears pierced. haha, I'm tan but it's all natural! even with sunscreen I tan.

you don't have to change. you just have to sift through the muck to find a diamond.

[oceanavenue]

There are many girls who don't do any of those. But it will limit you from finding a woman because of the many who do.

[beerY33]

Uh, no! There are plenty of girls who don't do these things. Myself included!

[Anonymous]

Guys do it too. If you don't like it then fine. NOt a problem

[ilovecookies]

I actually don't like modifications either, I think natural is just beautiful :)