Is pessimism unattractive?

[Life_is_odd]

I am extremely pessimistic/brutally honest,

Is this unattractive, Not just in relationships, but in friendships too,

Or do you like the unfiltered honesty

[mickeymusic]

I find that being overly pessimistic can be most unattractive. That's not to say that some pessimism is not warranted, just that if it comes across as persistantly negative it can be a turn off. I really appreciate complete honesty in my friends/family/partner, and I find that honesty & optimism work alongside each other just fine. I`m an optimist by nature, but that in no way means I hide my feelings or my self expression. If you are consistently expecting the worst from people or a given situation, then this is most likely what you will find. And again, if you are looking for the best then it find you. My experience has found that overtly pessimistic people give off a vibe that I, as an optimist try to avoid. Life`s too short to be negative.

[Mesonfielde]

I am personally attracted to pessimism, but my image on what is attractive is sort of twisted, so who knows if I'm the only one. I am also pessimistic, and it tends to wear people out...

Honesty is nice, but you also need some tact. If you are a complete asshole with no regards to any feelings, well, they say that's not good in a friendship. You should do that only if they specifically ask you for completely unfiltered honesty. You can be honest - but try to phrase things nicely. :P

[Life_is_odd]

Well people see my pessimism as sarcasm and don't realize I'm serious, so people think its quite humorous, it strangly attracts people to me XD

[Mesonfielde]

Haha, that's nice. xD

Though, they say optimism takes you further than pessimism, because if you just cope with things the way they are, they won't improve. This is just a general saying.. >.>

[Life_is_odd]

I have gotten farther with pessimism XD I feel like I do everything the opposite way then others, I'm an odd person XD

[Mesonfielde]

Lovely. I tend to feel the same way. High-five!

[Life_is_odd]

Yay a fellow weirdo *Epic high five*

[Anonymous]

Pessimism is very unattractive. Honesty is a good quality. But too much honesty is bad. Like If I hadn't seen you in years, and you gained some weight.. I wouldn't walk up to you and say- Holy sh*t you got fat. Etc.

[Life_is_odd]

I do edit my honesty, unless they need to hear it

[Opinion Owner]

I beat many odds in life being optimistic that I wouldn't have beat if I were pessimistic.

[Life_is_odd]

It actually helps me cope with stuff, cause I don't fool myself by thinking things will get better

[Opinion Owner]

But if you don't think things won't get better, they won't... I was told at 15 by doctors after I suffered a car accident that I would never walk again.. You know how hard that is? Well, through the power of prayer, believing in myself and my cause.. I can walk. I actually ran a 5k last spring. So if I were pessimistic and just accepted it, I'd still be in a wheelchair.

[Life_is_odd]

Sorry to hear about that, I think everyone finds ways to cope and overcome things, you choose optimisim and I choose pessimisim. My life actually got better after I started thinking the way I do. I graduated school got a job to pay for college, and I'm making new friends everyday

[Opinion Owner]

Don't be sorry, you should have only been sorry if I had been pessimistic and given up.

[Life_is_odd]

True, so I take it back and say good for you :)

[KERMlT]

Another hottie that is brutally honest and no longer visiting this site. :(

[Arcanus]

I LOVE pessimism. xD